Yeah I’m considering leaving the forum as I feel I no longer fit in here now and I seem to have become burdensome in some way so yeah I guess the time has come for me to leave. I have enjoyed my time here but I guess things change and move on.
Yeah I’m considering leaving the forum as I feel I no longer fit in here now and I seem to have become burdensome in some way so yeah I guess the time has come for me to leave. I have enjoyed my time here but I guess things change and move on.
Without wanting to guilt trip you into staying, I will miss you if you go, as I've really enjoyed talking with you and getting to know you a little. I don't feel you to be burdensome in any way and I'm sorry if you're being made to feel like this.
Aww you aren’t guilt tripping me at all. I’m not wanting to go but I just feel that I’m not really able to be helpful and I worry I have caused some issues and angered people when I wasn’t intending to do so. I’ve also noticed a lot of posts seem to be more parent related now and as I am not a parent I can’t comment so again I guess I feel more like I’m just in the way and like I don’t belong here. That could be how I’ve been treated in real life over the years though, it’s a long story.
I would miss our convos too and it could just be a phase I’m going through feeling this way but I just felt I needed to post how I feel.
Thank you for replying x
I think it's phase the site's going through, it's gone through more parent/child phases before, but this site should accomodate everyone.
I don#t seen that you've annoyed anyone and if someone has been annoyed by something you've said, then on the whole it's thier problem not your's, especailly as you've not set out to be hurtful, has it occured to you that you have a right to be annoyed by ohers, that its not all one way? I know I've upset and offended some on here, I post often on contravercial topics and often have to bite my tongue and not say what I really think or find a more diplomatic way of saying it, but people have a choice about what threads and topics they engage with and some people are a sense of offence looking for somewhere to manifest.Funnily enough they're often the people who shout the loudest about free speech, free speech seems to be OK as long as it them speeking and not anyone who disagrees with them.
Wow that’s really quite interesting to hear. Yeah my nan and grandad were working class compared to their siblings. They got married at 18 and within a year later their son was born haha. Now in today’s society I think a lot, not everyone but a lot of people only have kids so young so they get more money and don’t work. Same with those who marry and have kids then divorce, it boils my blood so much! I’m not saying everyone is like this but there are a lot of people out there unfortunately! I mean my mum has a friend whose son got taken advantage of this way and he’s now only allowed to see the kid once every few months but he doesn’t get any help I don’t think but his ex gets everything and she was the one who dumped him. Not to mention how she had to have on xmas day over 3months before her due date because she wanted it on Xmas day! I mean is that even allowed? Surely you can’t choose to have a kid so early? I will admit I’m not very well educated in these areas.
I have met quite a few people who have had kids in their late 30s/early 40s but they have been given a hard time for it but it’s their lives. I had a skin therapist who had her eldest at 19 but when she remarried in her late 30s she wanted another kid with her new husband but she got a lot of slack for it. I mean come on why can’t people just live their lives the way they want?
I'm glad you've decided to stick around.
I had my first child at 19 and so did many of my old school mates, the more middle class people I knew were having thier first babies in thier late 20's early 30's, now many women don't have children until thier in their late thirties or early forties. So 26 isn't old not to have children.
I think the age at which you give birth is a class thing, the more working class you are the more likely you are to have children young, when I was younger there was still the attitude that if you we're married by the age of 21 you were "on the shelf", unmarriagable except maybe to an older man to be his housekeeper and nurse. Certainly for women 10 years or so older than me this was a real cause of concern and most of them had babies by the time they were in thier early twenties. I'm sure this must have led to a lot of poor marital choices as people were desperate not to suffer the shame of being "on the shelf".
No it isn’t their forum but if they don’t want my help then as I’ve said they can take a long walk off a short pier, they don’t want my help then I’ll give it to those who are more deserving! I just wish I could be more confident at the right time.
Im glad you have had the last laugh but it’s terrible how people change their tone over the age, I mean it’s just a number. Also my nan had her oldest when she was only 19, ok this was years ago but still. I keep getting called a geriatric because I’m nearly 26 and still not got kids or even been in a relationship but I just want to take life at my own pace. I mean that’s me though and we are all different which I get. I’m more introverted.
Well it's not their forum is it? They've got no right to tell you you can't post and if they can't listen to a young person then maybe thats why they're having such a hard time understanding their own young people.
I was always older than my years too and got loads of carp about it too, especially as I had kids so young, but although it hurt at the time because people would talk to me like a normal human being until they found out I was 10 years younger than them and then had to be condescending, I think I've had the last laugh, as I can look back at them and still think they're idiots and wonder if they look back on their younger selves and cringe at how up themselves they were?
I just don’t understand why parents take a dislike to me.
My suspicion is that they want an echo chamber of people who are in the same situation as them, who can tell them it will get better and they are not bad people etc.
I've had my fair share of "what would you know, you've never been a" parent / invalid / female (delete as appropriate) when people have asked for advice.
I think they are just lashing out a bit in their pain so I tend to let them be.
Live and let live and all that hippy stuff works best here.
I suppose I could be a part of it. I might do a little Halloween post later on or a left handed and right handed post. Could do some gaming posts too and other stuff. Guess I just get nervous lol. But yeah the parents can stick either their cliques and we can stay with ours. Say I’m not the best with socialising so though I have been here for nearly 4 months I’m still trying to get used to communicating with others. But I have had some great conversations with users including yourself so it would be a shame to leave.
I just don’t understand why parents take a dislike to me. I’ve got better things to do than waste time thinking about it though I think my problem is I can’t just shake off and ignore. Guess that’s something I will be working on with my psychologist.
Im gonna cheer myself up and do some ring fit now.
I suppose I could be a part of it. I might do a little Halloween post later on or a left handed and right handed post. Could do some gaming posts too and other stuff. Guess I just get nervous lol. But yeah the parents can stick either their cliques and we can stay with ours. Say I’m not the best with socialising so though I have been here for nearly 4 months I’m still trying to get used to communicating with others. But I have had some great conversations with users including yourself so it would be a shame to leave.
I just don’t understand why parents take a dislike to me. I’ve got better things to do than waste time thinking about it though I think my problem is I can’t just shake off and ignore. Guess that’s something I will be working on with my psychologist.
Im gonna cheer myself up and do some ring fit now.
I just don’t understand why parents take a dislike to me.
My suspicion is that they want an echo chamber of people who are in the same situation as them, who can tell them it will get better and they are not bad people etc.
I've had my fair share of "what would you know, you've never been a" parent / invalid / female (delete as appropriate) when people have asked for advice.
I think they are just lashing out a bit in their pain so I tend to let them be.
Live and let live and all that hippy stuff works best here.
