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Feeling a bit disappointed and clueless

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My partner broke up with me; and giving that I am off-work due to social anxiety (I quitted due to that, and am without benefits or any kind) it's struck me quite hard. I'm still waiting my autism test, so that wouldn't help me either (just my psychologist, some tests, and relatives suggest I am.)

She has been obsessed about me, for some reasons that escape my understanding (I think partly because her family does not like me).She has been lying to me quite a few times, and gotten somewhat abusive, but I was too weak to react, and I simply accept it.

Now, I think she still loves me but her obsession with me (or rather, general OCD, but applied to me almost exclusively) has made her operate abruptly, and decided to break up. I didn't push back, because I have been hurt so much lately that I accept it.

Anyways, I would appreciate advice. I am stable mentally, just trembling a bit out of fear. I tried to call "homeless scotland" but I've no money in my phone, so that didn't work.

Sorry if the text is a bit incoherent, it's the best I could do right now.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Good luck with it all.

    Give yourself a boost during your "interview" by:

    - having with you some water - and do drink it,

    -  I would be inclined to keep a fidget item in my hand too,

    - if it is in person I would wear a baseball / bucket sun hat so the overhead lighting is less intrusive,

    - have a pen and paper ready in case they mention other resources,

    - I know in stressful meetings my facial expression can become a bit set into "keep it together" mode ...so I try to write a few bullet points ahead of the meeting - to prompt me to tell people what worries me / the things confusing me / how I am feeling emotionally / my sentence summary about my Autism / my sentence summary about my mental health / my sentence summary about my lack of family support network / my sentence summary about my employment situation.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Thanks, I have read everything in your link, it was very useful. I am next to get to my "interview" about it. Quite scary.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Wishing you all the best fortune with the Council emergency accommodation tomorrow.

  • in reply to ArchaeC

    Thank you, it does get to my heart at the moment. 

    Many of us suffer one way or another, sometimes more than NT people.

    My psychologist has been amazing with me as well.

    I will try my best.

  • Sorry that you are going through that.

    I don’t have any advice but I am thinking of you.

  • in reply to Lotus

    Thank you, I talked at length with them in the helpline, and they were patient and helpful.

    I am reading everything I can on citizen advice and this website as well. Tomorrow I dont know where I will be, but it will be somewhere, hopefully less stressful than here.

    I meant that I clicked the first thing on google searching with that term "Homeless Scotland", it was the council, and I think they will help me although they seemed pissed off with me. And I guess with others as well.

  • in reply to Deleted User

    Thank you, I have gotten in touch with Council Housing for an emergency accomodation, and may be in one tomorrow.

  • Sorry to hear all your news at the moment - glad you felt able to share with us those things.

    Worth a try: to get mobile credit if you are homeless in Scotland, try contacting your local council to apply for the Scottish Welfare Fund crisis grant, which may provide small grants for essential items.  Grants and benefits are available to help cover basic needs and can be used to purchase essential items like mobile credit. 

    A couple of other options:

    • Shelter Scotland: Offers advice on homelessness, benefits, and how to make a homeless application. 
    • Simon Community Scotland: Offers services for people experiencing homelessness, including support with digital tools, which can be essential for communication and accessing services. Charities like Simon Community Scotland have programs to provide smartphones and digital support, improving access to online services and connections.

  • Hi, sorry to hear about your situation.

    Maybe a break is what is needed for you both to work out if you want the relationship to continue/restart, and if so how you could make it work better. If I was you I would insist on honesty and kindness before going back into that relationship though.

    You need to first focus on looking after yourself. I would suggest speaking to your doctor to discuss whether counselling and/or medication may help you through this difficult time.

    You mention "Homeless Scotland" - I'm not sure what that is, but if you are homeless at the moment, here is some advice from the Citizens Advice website:

    https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/housing/finding-somewhere-to-live/if-youre-homeless-or-at-risk-of-homelessness/

    I wish you good luck and hope things improve soon.