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Feeling a bit disappointed and clueless

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My partner broke up with me; and giving that I am off-work due to social anxiety (I quitted due to that, and am without benefits or any kind) it's struck me quite hard. I'm still waiting my autism test, so that wouldn't help me either (just my psychologist, some tests, and relatives suggest I am.)

She has been obsessed about me, for some reasons that escape my understanding (I think partly because her family does not like me).She has been lying to me quite a few times, and gotten somewhat abusive, but I was too weak to react, and I simply accept it.

Now, I think she still loves me but her obsession with me (or rather, general OCD, but applied to me almost exclusively) has made her operate abruptly, and decided to break up. I didn't push back, because I have been hurt so much lately that I accept it.

Anyways, I would appreciate advice. I am stable mentally, just trembling a bit out of fear. I tried to call "homeless scotland" but I've no money in my phone, so that didn't work.

Sorry if the text is a bit incoherent, it's the best I could do right now.

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  • Hi, sorry to hear about your situation.

    Maybe a break is what is needed for you both to work out if you want the relationship to continue/restart, and if so how you could make it work better. If I was you I would insist on honesty and kindness before going back into that relationship though.

    You need to first focus on looking after yourself. I would suggest speaking to your doctor to discuss whether counselling and/or medication may help you through this difficult time.

    You mention "Homeless Scotland" - I'm not sure what that is, but if you are homeless at the moment, here is some advice from the Citizens Advice website:

    https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/scotland/housing/finding-somewhere-to-live/if-youre-homeless-or-at-risk-of-homelessness/

    I wish you good luck and hope things improve soon.

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    Thank you, I talked at length with them in the helpline, and they were patient and helpful.

    I am reading everything I can on citizen advice and this website as well. Tomorrow I dont know where I will be, but it will be somewhere, hopefully less stressful than here.

    I meant that I clicked the first thing on google searching with that term "Homeless Scotland", it was the council, and I think they will help me although they seemed pissed off with me. And I guess with others as well.

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  • in reply to Lotus

    Thank you, I talked at length with them in the helpline, and they were patient and helpful.

    I am reading everything I can on citizen advice and this website as well. Tomorrow I dont know where I will be, but it will be somewhere, hopefully less stressful than here.

    I meant that I clicked the first thing on google searching with that term "Homeless Scotland", it was the council, and I think they will help me although they seemed pissed off with me. And I guess with others as well.

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