does anyone else sometimes doubt they're autistic?

I'm doubting I'm autistic because I don't have the stereotypical personality traits of autism, I'm quite talkative to people who I'm familiar with like I'm really shy when I first meet them, but I can do small talk about stuff I've heard and seen for today and what's gone on today etc. to someone who I'm comfortable with 

I'm not gifted nor am I good at maths and science, I wouldn't call myself intelligent, I have judged people before and I have not long ago, and I was proven wrong and I ended up liking the guy 

I'm not good at puzzles or riddles, it seems I don't fit in with autistic or none autistic people, feels kind of lonely or I'm just stupid 

I've also been on autism forums and sometimes I see "I hate when NT people do this" and sometimes I'm like "I do that though"

Parents
  • not holding a grudge is autistic

    and feeling like you are more confortable with autistic than with non-autistic is one of indicators of being autistic too

    so your new mission - find out what do you fancy/what you're good at, and embark on a great journey of enjoying it

    My Special Interest is Thinking, it does not have to be something material

    I did many versions of AQ 50, and I consistently score 42

  • I feel like I can hold a grudge sometimes but it depends what it is, if it's something small I won't hold a grudge 

  • or is it just being wary of a person that caused you doubt seriously what are their true intentions?

  • It was good talk

    I enjoyed it, 

    It's time for me to go to work

    may your day be full of autistic joy

  • and on this planet, those days, autistic are being made villains, for doing exactly that

    It will save you a lot of stress, to keep it to yourself and the person, and avoid public joining in

    I faced such a dilemma month ago, I managed to avoid disclosing it to my manager and still get transfered, so I do not have to work with that person anymore

    I planned to say the whole very long truth hoping he will interrrupt me before I get to the point where I would point fingers, so not a white lie

    and I didn't play my ace in a sleeve Stuck out tongue which is phonecall to my previous manager

  • exactly xD it doesn't feel right to pretend to like and be their friend, if I don't like a person I won't hide it, and I would respect it if some people were the same with me if they don't like me, then I know where I stand with that person

    When I call that person out for their awful behaviour, I'm called out for causing "drama" even though I'm just saying that what they said or did was awful 

  • it's not grudge, because you expressed your feelings, you do not have to suffer any indignities, he is a bully, you have full right to shun him,

    just because that is the way for everyone doesn't mean it has to be for you too,

    if they are ok with him disrespecting their boundaries it's their choice

    plus : they excuse his behaviour, and they don't excuse yours, what would equality act say about it?

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  • it's not grudge, because you expressed your feelings, you do not have to suffer any indignities, he is a bully, you have full right to shun him,

    just because that is the way for everyone doesn't mean it has to be for you too,

    if they are ok with him disrespecting their boundaries it's their choice

    plus : they excuse his behaviour, and they don't excuse yours, what would equality act say about it?

Children
  • It was good talk

    I enjoyed it, 

    It's time for me to go to work

    may your day be full of autistic joy

  • and on this planet, those days, autistic are being made villains, for doing exactly that

    It will save you a lot of stress, to keep it to yourself and the person, and avoid public joining in

    I faced such a dilemma month ago, I managed to avoid disclosing it to my manager and still get transfered, so I do not have to work with that person anymore

    I planned to say the whole very long truth hoping he will interrrupt me before I get to the point where I would point fingers, so not a white lie

    and I didn't play my ace in a sleeve Stuck out tongue which is phonecall to my previous manager

  • exactly xD it doesn't feel right to pretend to like and be their friend, if I don't like a person I won't hide it, and I would respect it if some people were the same with me if they don't like me, then I know where I stand with that person

    When I call that person out for their awful behaviour, I'm called out for causing "drama" even though I'm just saying that what they said or did was awful