Am I the only autistic person who isn't blunt?

Thank you NAS72221. I watched that one the other day, part of the reason the term was in my head. I can't identify with everything related in that vid, but certainly some of it! Especially that strong sense of second-hand embarrassment on others' behalf as well as my own. 

I have researched and James Blunt did serve under NATO in the Kosovo war. Interesting fact, thanks.

I don't think I'm blunt. I'm not even sure I know how to be lol. 

Do we all know that James Blunt has a legitimate claim to have actually saved the world from nuclear war when he was serving in the Army in the nineties? Essentially IIRC He and his commander jointly refused a direct order to attack the Russians given by an american general at the height of the Yugoslavian situation.

Shows some gumption and stones, does that. (Unless he lies, of course)

Very funny, I like your joke.

Exactly,

Well said :) 

Depending on what additional information you've learned, Autistic thinking doesn't always mean one is blunt. You might have acquired certain thought-full-ness rules which help provide ways of thinking through a thing or you may appreciate communication in ways which help others respond if that is what you've been exposed to.

Saying there's an Elephant in the room by accident or because one is mistaken about what the conversation is, is one thing. Not saying it because our family always considers dignity or matters of consequence doesn't mean I don't see it, it just means I've learned tools to consciously engage or intentionally disengage.

Bluntness does not maketh the Autist :) It can happen for most when raised in difficult economic circumstances, when one has added needs, when one isn't exposed to virtues. Being blunt can be distinctly American, a cultural phenomenon, where children are under more pressure to be be forward or learn to dominate socially. But more, there are personality types which automatically re-think or analyse more, perhaps you've see the consequence of bluntness in a relative and made a very solid choice to not behave like them. Who knows... 

If you think you have hyper empathy, this video might be of interest to you:

https://youtu.be/tt-fzj_ogVM

You are very welcome, I am glad this concept helps you understand yourself. You are not rude, you just use a different communication style that most non autistic people are not used to. Anyway what neurotypical people consider ‘honesty ‘ is not honesty.

This article might interest you:

https://autisticscienceperson.com/2021/05/17/be-honest-autistic-vs-neurotypical-honesty/

My DOCTOR told me point blank I was not Autistic when I asked for the test.

I present myself and communicate "too well to be Autistic" he said..

But the diagnosis does explain why despite being well motivated, above average intelligence, essentially helpful & co-operative (at least at the start) & very skilled at what I do, I'm still skint and struggling with the worldly tasks in my sixties.

Although if I'd had my diagnosis when I was your age, I feel I'd have been able to make a much better fist of things. Certainly, two years post diagnosis my life quality is improving, simply because I know what stuff I should and should not attempt.

You can always go get yourself a second opinion from Aspergertestsite, if you are really worried that you have been misdiagnosed.

I'm not blunt, quite the opposite.  As others have said here, autism is a spectrum and not having one or more symptom doesn't mean you're not on it.

If you are blunt with others but don't like it back, that is your issue and maybe relax about it (he said bluntly), no need to worry about the rest of it, and where you place yourself.  Doesn't mean you agree or accept all that people are blunt to you bout, but just accept what they say as their opinion and that's all.

If you just aren't blunt by nature, or try not to be blunt, then that is you and enjoy that.

I think I might have hyper-empathy of some kind, as I've always gone out of my way to be diplomatic, avoid conflict, people please, express comprehensive understanding when appropriate about someone's upset or annoyance, etc. I suppose it could all be part of masking too -the 'fawn' alternative to fight, flight or freeze. The cost is a lot of internalised tension and pain. But I don't think it's phoney. It genuinely would/has upset me for ages if I though I'd been needlessly flippant or blunt with someone. I was told a while ago that I could be quite 'spikey', and it made me feel appalling, as I hadn't realised. I've been doubly vigilant since.

yeah I got diagnosed with asd, some stuff I resonate with autisic people from what I read on other forums, but I also have some nt traits too, I'm not functioning too well my life isn't good

I'm blunt but only in my head. I never say things bluntly because I wouldn't want to upset anybody.

thank you for that, explains a lot, someone else mentioned masking, I have been called rude before without knowing why, I try not to seem blunt by putting emojis with what I say so I don't sound rude

the only person i met who called themselves blunt was james

I got diagnosed with autism a few months ago at 27 but I keep seeing a lot say a few of my behaviours is nt behaviour and I keep thinking maybe I've been misdiagnosed 

If you have met one autistic person, you have met one autistic person. This is a quote from Australian autistic academic Dr Stephen Shore. What I mean by this is that every autistic person is different and just because you can’t relate to one common  aspect of autistic experience doesn’t mean you are not autistic. Communication differences are only one aspect of autistic experience, there is so much more to being autistic including different sensory experiences, monotropic attention  Typically autistic people are quite literal, blunt and honest but the key is different communication styles across both neurotypes.

Do you relate to feeling like you communicate differently to the majority of the population?  Also have you heard of the Double Empathy Problem?

My doctor said everyone with autism is different. And that is true. We all have similarities but seem to experience things differently. Like some of us are able to have relationship and start families and some of us can't.

I'm sure there's a lot of blunt autistic people out there :)