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Am I the only autistic person who isn't blunt?

Jordan

I've never seen any autistic person say they're not blunt, and nt people can't take bluntness but most of the time I meet blunt people and I sometimes get defensive and take it to heart, does this mean I'm not autistic and I'm an NT in disguise? 

Parents

  • I think I might have hyper-empathy of some kind, as I've always gone out of my way to be diplomatic, avoid conflict, people please, express comprehensive understanding when appropriate about someone's upset or annoyance, etc. I suppose it could all be part of masking too -the 'fawn' alternative to fight, flight or freeze. The cost is a lot of internalised tension and pain. But I don't think it's phoney. It genuinely would/has upset me for ages if I though I'd been needlessly flippant or blunt with someone. I was told a while ago that I could be quite 'spikey', and it made me feel appalling, as I hadn't realised. I've been doubly vigilant since.

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  • I think I might have hyper-empathy of some kind, as I've always gone out of my way to be diplomatic, avoid conflict, people please, express comprehensive understanding when appropriate about someone's upset or annoyance, etc. I suppose it could all be part of masking too -the 'fawn' alternative to fight, flight or freeze. The cost is a lot of internalised tension and pain. But I don't think it's phoney. It genuinely would/has upset me for ages if I though I'd been needlessly flippant or blunt with someone. I was told a while ago that I could be quite 'spikey', and it made me feel appalling, as I hadn't realised. I've been doubly vigilant since.

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