could just sit and cry

I am so, so sorry to hear that. Pets can bring so much joy and unfortunatly heartache.  Nothing else i can say, only time will help.

Take care

Puffin

thanks again Puffin, just when we didnt think things could get any worse, my sons puppy died yesterday.we are all devestated.i had just moved the pups onto semi solids and we think he tried to eat to fast and it went down the wrong way, we tried everything to clear his throat but just couldnt, and theworst was, my son couldnt cry. he just ticked as still is. i cant stop crying

Hi Barnaby crumble,

I understand your dilemma it is the same with us at the moment.  We Live in the middle of no where also, great for my son most of the time, but when money is tight (i am not working) only my husband, and the nearest town is forty five minutes away, (that is where he does his martial arts class).  It does make it near impossible to be social!  I combine our weekly food shop with the martial arts class and that tends to be it, our weekly outing.  I know off course it is different for me as my son at the moment is still at primary school five days a week. 

Keep trying to get your money back for that holiday, you must surely be enntitled to a percentage back esp. considerinng the circumstances did you pay by credit card ? The school must of had some kind of insurance policy for the holiday?  Could you not get a note from your local friendly doctor saying your son was not medically able to go on holiday due to stress?

Thats great your son did his cbt test , that was very brave of him and a real acheivement.  I am sure he will get a little more confident on it , slowly but surely , possibly you could meet him at the petrol station a couple of times for him to be familier with the routine etc. 

Take care,

Puffin

Hi Puffin, thanks. It doesnt look like we will get the money back because we pulled him out but im still trying.We are stuck between a rock and a hard place at the moment, i work from home part time because I have M.S and I cant do any more, hubby is working all hrs god sends and we live in the middle of no where. we cant afford to even get him out to socialise regularly. i cant go and get any more work. and Hubby is either at work or asleep.its all getting me down a bit at the moment.My son did his CBT last week, so proud of him. its the motor bike prophiciancy assesment. we chose a chap that has taught other aspies to ride, my son has been riding a moto x bike since he was 6, its his obsession. but as i though it has suddenly dawned on him that riding the bike is fine, quite capable, but it means he has to interact with people at the petrol station, if he goes anywhere other than doing a loop and ending up back at home. his little world has just fallen apart again. 

Hi Barnaby Crumble,

Hope things have improved a little since your last post?  My son has Aspergers but is only six.

Our holidays usually involve a quiet stay in the country somewhere, my son loves peace and quiet but with enough open space to run or walk about and explore (exhaust himself)! Birdwatching or Fishing.  A Caravan or camping holiday might be nice, give you both time to chill and chat and get things in perspective. Not too expensive either.  Alot of sites often have adventure parks near by if your son is up to Canoeing or other out doorsie stuff, these sorts of things might help to give his confidence a boost.

On another note my son has enlisted in a martial arts class, he loves it.  I cannot sing its praise ennough, *** SOOL.  Mainly visual learning, helps to keep him fit, a real sense of acheivement with different coloured belts to aim for, and a sense of being part of a team. Parents are actively encouraged to go along and watch. My sons class contains the old, young, a wheelchair bound child and 3 or for other kids i am certain have Asd.  If your son is interested in Martial arts i would definatly give *** SOOL , or similar a try.

My suggestions might not be for you at all, we are all so different in our interests.  I hope you find some great moto x days out and you both have a well deserved break.

Puffin 

Thank you Chrystal, thank you Hope, he loves moto x so I've been looking up a few things to take him to, he managed to stay for he whole of his exam this morning, can hardly string a sentence together now but he's happily absorbed in his video game and no more exams for 8 weeks so hopefully he'll relax a bit more, he thinks he should be doing revision 24/7 , so even though he is resting up this afternoon that in its self is stressful. He's teaching me a lot!!.

Is he interested in History and museums? I enjoy going on day trips with my parents to places of interest.

Hi Barnaby crumble - so sorry to hear what happened.  What a downer.  Has he said what he'd like to do instead?  My son had 2 holidays each yr for a number of yrs.  We had a glitch when 1 of his regular holidays was approaching so I made him an offer of something I thought he'd enjoy - day trips.  He is a practical person + fortunately I was spot on.  So it's what interests him. There are so many stories on here about able pupils who have lots of trouble or cant cope with mainstream.  It's a real confidence-killer for them so it's finding a way of building up their confidence again.  There a lots of people on here who can give better advice than me, my son isn't an aspie.  I'm sure they'll be along soon.  Just wanted to say I know how things like this feel.  Hope things improve soon.