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Hi Everyone

COOKIES280

Hello everyone,

This is my first post on here,

I'm really not to sure how to start this... Not very good at this type of thing, so please bare with me 

I'm Cookies and I'm from the UK.

I have been struggling quite a lot the past year as I imagine most people are in these awful times. This current situation really doesn't help. I'm a very anxious and panicky person generally and alPensivel my routines have gone out the window since March. I have only managed to go outside of my house once since March and that was because my Dad died and I had to go to his funeral Pensive And it probably sounds really bad but if I could have got out of it I would... Not because he didn't mean a lot to me just I don't know really.

Anyway my main reason for posting on here was really to find out if anyone in the community has any ideas/ways that they have been able to get through these hard times? I get that not everything will work for everyone, just looking for insight to other peoples ways Slight smile

Anyway Thankyou for reading to the end! I'm really anxious about posting this and I think ive proof read it enough times.

  • Many members here have taken up meditation. you could try that to knock down your anxiety. Its free, costs nothing, even attempting it has an affect.

    If u do a say 10 minutes per day every day for 30 days you will feel a change. If u have a phone there are several apps you can use, but you can also use guided meditations in youtube for free as well. Search for "guided meditation for anxiety" OR "guided meditation for relaxation" lie on a bed with headphones Headphones on and follow the guide.

    Tip: Try at least 3 times if u cant get into it.  Your mind wont want to do this so it may well put up serious resistance like distracting thoughts Hear no evil

    wishing u relieve from anxiety and panic attacks

    Heart

    PS for panic attacks use the Box Breathing technique as taught by US army. Focus on the relaxation felt during and just after you do it.

    Key is :  practise it ( on the bus walking watching TV ) once a day as well so you can use it when anxiety and panic sets in. It works.

    What do you think ?

  • Seriously, I find music to help get me through.

    After my mum died, the music I listened to got me over the hump. However, I had to grow up, and my musical scope became more eclectic. I don't care about modern music, I listen to the seminal material of the past who influenced my favourite bands growing up.

    At the moment, I'm feeling disappointed; and listening to dark, melancholy stuff. But bad moods do pass.

    My dad was killed in the Northern Ireland 'Troubles' and I developed survivor's guilt growing up. I was a miserable, self-loathing specimen. But I can look back at that time and say that it brought me to a world that I enjoyed.

  • Hang in there Cookie!

    I have a PhD in Mourning. Smiley

  • Hi Cookies

    This year has upturned living for some of us in rather extreme ways.

    Well done for persevering. I hear what you say about the not going out of the house.

    Until this month, I had only gone out of the house for walks and had not seen anyone outside of the household I'm in.

    What tips? I don't know. What I've done is decided to accept writing off the year. If I do nothing useful in 2020 and nothing feels normal until say summer 2021, then so be it. If I can make some small use of 2020, then I'll consider that a bonus.

    So my strategy has been set expectations super low and that way, a bit of 'niceness' in the very smallest of places is perhaps a bit easier to appreciate.

    Again, well done for persevering and welcome to the forum here.