Drive-By Posts

This is also a forum for people affected by ASD difficulties and we need to keep in mind that if there are not responses, it can also be because a person has no idea what to say or how to respond, this happens with me a LOT, I tend to be more responsive to practical stuff or direct experiential stuff because then I know what to say and a lot of the time if I get an answer to a question, that's it, my brain just stops there. 

My OT pointed this out to me when I mentioned once about finding the forum 'difficult' sometimes with what people replied with and she said to me to try to remember that those people also have difficulties like me, I try to do that. 

I may have missed the point of this conversation, but sometimes it seems there is also 'pressure' on the forum to be 'social' here too, when some people are just looking for information or even use conversation as a means of obtaining information rather than for 'social' purposes.

You too, Jd.

U r very sweet. Maybe there are a few good people out there. Likewise to u too. 

The diagnosis can be really overwhelming for some people. I was really young when I was diagnosed but I know how hard it can be for others later in life. Here if you need me.

Here’s hoping Rebecca. Still coming to terms with my diagnosis and support of exactly forthcoming 

I understand that Jd. It is really difficult but there's a lot of good people here, we all understand each other and I think that helps a lot of people. Hopefully one day more people out there will understand and be nicer to us.

• That’s nice to know. There’s far too few nice people out there these days and being autistic makes it that bit more difficult.  

It is something I can do. I'll always respond within 24 hours and I'll never leave you hanging or waiting. I might not be able to help, I'm no expert but just having someone to talk to can be a big comfort and help. I'm not going anywhere. I'm here for as long as the site stays running

Is that summit u can do here as I wasn’t aware you could. I may have missed summit or being silly. Sometimes a good chat is all I need but posting it out for everyone to read makes me a lil uncomfortable as never been made to feel welcome in any group ever and as this thread addresses u start talking and a one hit wonder replies and u post a long comment and never get a reply which for a genuine autistic person messes with ur head and puts a downer on it. 

Sorry to hear your finding it rough at the moment. You can message me if you ever need to talk about anything.

I do find that these “urgent” cases being referred to do take up attention from genuine people who need help. Having a rough time atm but hesitant to post as fairly often u never get a reply till days later. But the divas demanding answers and then never post back get the replies 

I haven't noticed but I'm new here as well, though I do try to respond to messages as soon as I'm notified that someone has replied to me. That's partially an ocd thing with me. As soon as I know I have a response I have to respond as soon as possible and if I don't it makes my ocd hit the roof! 

...and just realised this was meant to be a reply to the conversation in general not Riddler's, couldn't remember how it works.

And as I am here again after some time away, I too fall into one of those categories of being 'involved' for a while and then retreating. For me, this is a feature of the difficulties with my Asperger's, I find communication gets more confusing the more people are involved and the more that a person says, even in writing which is my preferred communication method.

I also tend to randomly ask questions of a poster if I've read something that is too ambiguous for me, when I have not been involved in the process of the posting of the conversation but I don't see a problem with that. There is another forum where I was doing this and it annoyed some people as they said you can't just come on to a forum and ask these questions, which I was really hurt and confused by as that is why I joined in the first place. Apparently, there seems to be 'social rules' on forums too and unfortunately for me I struggle with this just as I do in the non electronic social world

This is reflected in my life too I guess, with the 'difficulties building and maintaining friendships/relationships' which I'm not good at and also asking what to others seems like random questions about something which was said 3 weeks ago as I'll still be processing it. Guess that's why I've often been called stupid.

I saw another post on here about trolls and I was called one of those once on a forum because I asked a question that apparently I just did to cause people to argue! I was so upset and confused as I just don't understand how asking questions can cause so much 'trouble'. I even had to look up what a 'troll' meant on forums and asked my one friend what it meant and to explain why it was a problem which they thought was funny, but I was so upset.

And finally, there is the depression and hopelessness which sets in and that makes things even more difficult as you just think what is the point, you don't 'fit' anywhere.

And yes, I acknowledge plastic's contribution to the forum and think he is one of the most sensible, logical posters on the forum along with DC who's style is different but who's posts I also like.

I was diagnosed 19 months ago and I'm still trying to come to terms with it. I don't know if that's normal or not.

Glad Tidings to both Plastic and Aidie from M'self...! 

I post to explain Myself & before this Thread drops down way too far... but this *is* a hasty post... My reasons for disappearing just now, I have said in other Threads, but they are because of the HOT WEATHER and Skilled Hackers currently present...

(The latest one is posting underneath the History (hint: at updates of photos), without a visible Thread, yet due to the older Hack of  "Faked 9 Upvotes Discussion Starter Achievement Award", they have gained a high reputation by doing not much at all. See the "Forum Security" Thread for more detail of what I am trying to say, here...)

I last Posted here when there was a dip in the Hot Weather... currently there is another. But I do not know when I may post again for certain. I live in London where there is not only Hot Weather but POLLUTION, You see...

Official "HeatWave Warnings" from the Meterological office are from June 1st until September 15th. So that is a reason why I might largely be M.I.A. just now... including Hackers.

(It would be nice if NAS read this message and understood it. One thing I really do not like is when Malicious Hackers Post, and yet *their* accounts are ignored/not removed/allowed back after a certain time...!??)

Again, Thanks to.Mr.Plastic & Mr Aidie. There are others with good stuff on this Thread, so Thanks for that. But I have to post this in haste and quit for now - again. Good Luck.

(NAS, please pay most attention to that which is enclosed in Brackets in this Post. & Fare Well.)

(EDIT: Hi Anyone, & Yes I just edited this reply - Heatwave warnings are from June not July. But as I edit, there is another Upvoter added to the list of fake upvotes, too. I may wonder just *how long* this list has to get before "Mods" notice/correct it... !)

Hi, if i can throw in my two penn’orth! I think I may fall into the category you’re referring to, although not deliberately. For me, and I suspect others, when you first start considering yourself, seeking assessment and then waiting for one, this is the first forum you tend to find. It’s been really helpful to me thus far and reassured me I’m not going completely out of my mind.

However, until I’m officially diagnosed I feel like a bit of a fraud talking to peeps like yourself, who I assume are well established in this world. So I stay on the fringes and drop in and out every so often.

where have u been ?

yes its like there is a conveyor belt of new ppl who dont come back. Only the mad ones stay :)

Hi DC - Thanks for that.    I think you're right - maybe once they get their answers they move on.         Maybe I'm suffering from forum fatigue,

Glad Tidings From Me to Mr. Stretchy... (!)
I only post/venture somethings because it is *You* asking, and You are part of the better continuity/consistency here. By that I mean that You have been here a good while, and try to do Your best while maintaining a good standard...
...That said, I am a bit surprised to see this question from Your Good Self, Sir...! As with Society in general, certain persons will just post to get an answer... then not bother and/or will forget about (this) Forum(s).
This Forum is supposedly "just a place to talk about Autism or a place where Autistics can talk.", more-or-less. & despite the fact that questions may be worded or asked about other things (e.g. Star Trek, Pokemon, Music, Cookery, etc.)...

The ("drive through") persons You refer to will generally be the "I have a Child!" or "Eeeek What is Autism yikes?!" people; They are finding it new or weird or scary, and are largely seeking an answer which they may use to propel themselves towards a completely different perspective not necessarily to do with even acknowledging "Autism". (...Sorry.)

It is very few in number, that those getting over that sort of initial "Autism" business, see that they *can* remain here and be helpful to others. Those that are good will do so and will post helpful things, and those that are bad will remain and post unhelpful things without attempting apology/explanation.

...*Phew.*. After writing all of that, what I ALSO mean to say is, I think, something I might have said to You before. You are great, but when feeling over-stretched (no pun intended there), then please do take a break from this Forum. (It is easy to mix up the genuine Posters with the Spammers, but, bottom line is, this here IS the WWW where Spammers can copy genuine posts.) Just trust Your own feelings and learn and do not post when tired or feeling distant. In order to look after Yourself the first person to rely upon is Yourself.

This post is long, I shall close it with some, um, sympathy. Yes, it is extremely annoying to become concerned over a person who posts without replying to answers (This sometimes even includes NAS!), So I do not reply as much as I at first used to. Of Users, Some will reply and then leave, never to return. Still less will reply, leave, then come back later after a few years. Yet Some copy others verbatim and *that* is Spam. It is just the way that the WWW works, just like in real life: Crime or Lying intermingle with Beneficial or Honest Folk, alas; so just learn from it until Autistic TMI happens, then take a break...

I post all of this sort of hoping that at least some sentences of this Post are useful; Meantime, Fare Thee Well, Mr.Stretchy... 

(P.S. - SPAM here is also more likely to happen during Summer, Major Holidays, Major Sporting Events, and at Weekends.)