Does anyone else struggle sometimes to do ‘appropriate’ greetings? You know, as the social skills textbook instructs, especially when hugely distracted by something else? Usually I can manage it, but this morning I may have managed to diversify!
I happened to need to pop to the Scout shop this morning to buy some badges for my Beavers. After I got out of my car I realised that there was what looked like a dead hedgehog by the side of the car park. So I had to stop for a few minutes to investigate whether a) it was actually a hedgehog, and b) it was actually dead. So after establishing those facts, I walked into the shop and rather than doing the textbook greeting, I just said “there’s a dead hedgehog in the car park!” Luckily they were fine with it, they even asked what group scarf it was wearing BUT this really isn’t the appropriate way for me to greet people who I haven’t seen for a few months!!
Hey, it got the message across straight away!
I actually find it very hard to initiate conversations with people I'm not very comfortable talking to. Maybe getting straight to the point is the way to get over that? ;)
I've heard and said stranger things! Wouldn't worry too much! I remember seeing a guy I know on the bus, first thing he said was "I had a heart attack, smoked too many rocks on my 30th". The bus was full, but it didn't throw me out. I'd have been thrown out if he would have been any less than his usual crazy self. No filter at all that one.
I'm OK with greetings, it's banter that gets me into trouble. I can go way past the line, especially when it's that passive-aggressive crap.
Sounds like some sort of dogging or cottaging code, maybe for someone whose had too many pricks.
Silly naive me! I thought that @Hollowman was simply using the phrase as an analogy for a particularly painful dose of the piles!
Well exactly, it was important and they needed to know about it
It was a novel conversation starter!
I’m not worried, they know me in the shop and they took it well, a little bit of light relief after a busy morning! It just made me think how when I’m distracted and the mask slips, I really don’t adhere to the rules of ‘appropriate social interaction’. It’s not my default setting. But I’m ok with that.
I used to hear all sorts when I used to get the bus regularly!
I know what you mean about going past the line, I don’t always know when to stop with a joke!
You’ll have to let us know what response you get
This seems like a good strategy for teaching your students!
Reminds me of something which isn't exactly the same but has similarities in that I cringed afterwards and have remembered it so far for about 30 years.
All that time ago, I was out shopping and aware that I "needed" to get my dad a present for fathers' day. I was looking at something (can't remember what) on a high shelf that I couldn't reach, and the shop assistant asked if I'd like her to get it down for me to have a look. I panicked at the thought of all the social interaction around me examining it, trying to decide under her gaze whether to buy it or not and then having to say (probably) 'no I don't want it please put it back & sorry to bother you etc.' so I blurted out "No thanks its just a fathers' day thing" as I was bolting out of the shop!
I prefer to think of it as assisting people who use English as a second or other language to use the language productively in their career/slives. I'd like to go beyond the traditional teacher/student relationship, because I have found it to be very isolating