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Obsession

Hope5

Our son has lots of obsessions and at the moment it is xbox.  I have limited his time on the xbox but even when he comes off he talks about it non stop, he talks about the games and the other players and he gets very excitable and emotional and shouts at us alot.  He wont seem to listen to us when we try and advise him on the situation.   We were thinking about writing down some house rules regarding xbox. Does anyone else have these difficulties? I would be grateful for any advice.  He has had other obsessions which have come and gone, but when one obsession goes something always takes its place.

  • Hi I’m new to this I’m struggling with my 17 year old son. He is constantly on his iPad or computer playing online games and talking to other people who play the same games. I try my best to get him to socialise with family but he always says no. His sleep pattern is nocturnal with makes it difficult. He went up to the moors at midnight a few months ago and went to sleep up there!! I’m at my wits end I’m getting no help and feel so alone. Any suggestions gratefully received.

  • I agree with Scorpian . Never deny someone with Asperger/autism the chance to pursue their interest, unless it is damaging to the person concerned or risks hurting another person. A 'special interest' gives ours lives immense security, enjoyment and meaning. Without it, a person could become very unhappy and even depressed - akin to solitary confinement.

  • As someone on the spectrum, I'd ask you to not limit his enjoyment of his 'obsessions' too much - our 'obsessions' or 'special interests' are what give our lives meaning and value, and limiting our access to and enjoyment of them is akin to locking a neurotypical up in solitary confinement - no matter how short a time it's for, any unwarranted punishment, and that is what it is, of that sort will have a detremental long term effect.

  • hi - if poss it helps if you can spot what will become an obsession early on, then you can have a plan which gives time to enjoy the obsession + hopefully use it as a way of learning as well,  but stops it taking over everything else that needs doing daily.  I know, easier to say than do, been caught out in the past on a number of occasions.