Published on 12, July, 2020
A few years ago, I said to my mentor, that I loved doing whatever I was doing. He said, that’s interesting, I only do what I love.
I had no idea what he was talking about at the time but I felt that he had said something profound, so I allowed this thought to sink in and once I realised what it meant, I also made the decision to do only what I love.
It was one of the best decisions I ever made because now, I do only what I love.
How many other people only do what they love and what is their reason for not doing what they love, if that’s the case.
It has created an interesting and exciting journey for me because prior to this, I didn’t really know what I loved doing, I’m still exploring that and it’s been fascinating to see how I’ve lived many years without a clue about what I loved doing. Now I love exploring and finding out what I love to do.
You will never be in a position to do only what you love California, our society doesn’t work like that.
Can you explain this apparent contradiction please, BlueRay? Before my head implodes.
Yeah, of course I can Tom, even without looking at what I said before or after writing that to California. I know this stuff is hard for some people to get their heads around ~ I’ve only just realised that. I used to think that everyone thought like me so I would be thoroughly confused with what they said, and visa versa, but I understand now that not everybody thinks like me.
It says ‘society’ doesn’t work like that. Society works by getting everyone to do the same things, it convinces everyone that they have no choice but to trade their time for money. It isn’t set up to empower people to live their dreams. It wants workers and it wants them to work doing the things that ‘society’ deems or believes are important. If you wait for outer circumstances or ‘society’ or any of the systems within it, that prop it up, before you do what you love, you will never be in a position to do only what you love. The only way a person will ever do what they love is to turn away from societal rules, norms etc and turn towards what it is inside of them and to what they really want. For me, it was an easy life, there’s more adding to that now but basically, if I waited for the right opportunity or enough money or whatever to do what I wanted, I would barely do anything. I would be trapped in a job I didn’t particularly want to do, to only have holidays when somebody else agrees I can etc. I would think that when I have enough money or whatever, I will be able to have an easy life. It doesn’t work like that. You have to make the decision first and then the easy life follows. It follows on from the decision.
It isn’t as straight forward as that of course. We are full of self limiting beliefs and doubts etc that we have gathered up over the years. Even hearing things like, money is the root of all evil, or the rich get richer and the poor get poorer etc, will effect and dictate the level of income anyone will achieve in his life time. If a person has an underlying, invisible belief, usually because they haven’t really thought about it, about money being the root of all evil, they will never be rich because that would make them evil. That is how life/the mind works. We can’t just gloss over limiting or what some people call negative beliefs or thoughts by being ‘positive’. We have to explore the beliefs as they show them selves and discover for ourselves if they are true or not. This discovery and exploration can be made in many ways, we are almost awash with some amazing therapists/teachers now, all around the world. There’s something for everyone but if we are waiting for our outer circumstances to give us a break, it will never happen. We have to make that decision because society will never offer us that option. Society simply wants us to work for them, in either the drug, food or fashion industry or some other industry or job that they decide needs to be done. When you are past working age, it’s as if the person loses value. My specialism for a number of years was with older people, mental health problems and dementia and it blows my mind how little value is given to the people I worked with, who have experienced the war and all its hardships and heartbreak and yet here they were being treated, by the very same government who they fought for, with barely an ounce of respect or gratitude. I do not recognise that society as real. It is man made, founded on greed and I will have no part in it. If they can treat this wonderful people, and they don’t make em like that anymore, then I can not recognise or respect them. Even if they had no active part in the war, they experienced it, and they deserve better. I will not base my life on such shallow values and morals. When you turn away from the values forced upon you, and turn instead to what you want, you find that opportunities open up in places you didn’t even know existed and life becomes an enjoyable journey not a hard slog, which it always is if you live by societal norms and I can’t do that.
If it’s still not clear, please tell me.