Seperation anxiety

I don’t know how to answer this NAS35627 but I know you have to have some outlet yourself. I know my friend has to prepare her children for these kinds of situations. For example, she will remind them every hour or so about what’s going to happen and reassure them that everything is going to be ok. Maybe he can have a plan of what he can do while you’re out, for example, playing on a favourite game. I feel for your boy and I feel for you as well. Is there something he can do that would reduce his anger or anxiety if it starts to get too much. I guess these are strategies you are both going to have to learn, and sometimes they might not work. Maybe you could phone him while your out to let him know that you haven’t gone away forever, you’ll be back in two hours or whatever. It’s hard to know without knowing him but I think preparation is key. What could be the benefit for him in learning how to be away from you that is meaningful to him?If he can see a benefit to him that might help. Maybe it means he’s learning to be a big boy or something, like his brothers or that you will have some special time together the next day. It gets easier. Does he respond to charts or things like that. For example, he will get a star for being so brave? 

I don’t know how to answer this NAS35627 but I know you have to have some outlet yourself. I know my friend has to prepare her children for these kinds of situations. For example, she will remind them every hour or so about what’s going to happen and reassure them that everything is going to be ok. Maybe he can have a plan of what he can do while you’re out, for example, playing on a favourite game. I feel for your boy and I feel for you as well. Is there something he can do that would reduce his anger or anxiety if it starts to get too much. I guess these are strategies you are both going to have to learn, and sometimes they might not work. Maybe you could phone him while your out to let him know that you haven’t gone away forever, you’ll be back in two hours or whatever. It’s hard to know without knowing him but I think preparation is key. What could be the benefit for him in learning how to be away from you that is meaningful to him?If he can see a benefit to him that might help. Maybe it means he’s learning to be a big boy or something, like his brothers or that you will have some special time together the next day. It gets easier. Does he respond to charts or things like that. For example, he will get a star for being so brave? 

Thank u for ur advice...im currently at the hairdressers but he was threatening to stab himself later on or fone 999 cuz hes dying etc...im gonna try the call thing maybe every hour to check in with him...hubby offered to take him to pics etc but he was havin none of it. Hes ok at the mo cuz hes with my mum but its later is the prob. His little brother is only 6 he gets really scared when he starts wrecking things. I feel its vital to my own mental heath to go tonight...im sittin cryin in the salon like a twat.