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Anxious about the future

pinkchocoholic

Long story cut short I'm probably handing by notice in at work tomorrow due to mental health issues declining a lot (got told today I was getting stage three disclinary which probably means dismissal so I thought best to hand notice in, at I can't face another dismissal meeting).

I'm anxious about the future,

what if I can't get another job 

what will happen when my parents die will I be able to afford somewhere to live and be okay

what if I find a job but then have to leave due to the and reasons then it happens multiple times so I can never hold a job down

My family are supportive saying they are there for me no matter what and will help me now and in the future, but I still worry about it 

Any advice etc will be appreciated, plus any thing I could do to help me now and in the future

  • I can really relate to this because I went through it myself in 2019. After 11 years in the same job (2007-2019), I chose to hand in my notice. I was becoming ill and my colleagues weren’t very kind. Strangely, even though they hadn’t been nice, they rallied around me when I got upset about leaving.  

    I cried day and night because I knew I’d face bullying if I stayed, and my diagnosis was completely ignored. It was all handled badly, and they kept trying to change my mind. Only one person truly understood why I had to go. I felt so low afterwards, just trying to process everything.  

    I still have good days and bad days. It’s easy to slip into a slump and feel isolated. What’s helped me is a local ladies’ social group I found — really friendly and open to women of all ages. It’s run through a community charity and they do afternoon and evening gatherings, talks, social events, and optional cream teas for a small fee.  

    I also pop along to Songs of Praise at my local church sometimes. Tea and cake always help. I did try something new recently and had a massive anxiety attack, so that didn’t go to plan.  

    If you take anything from this: do what feels comfortable for you. 

    Hope this helps 

  • One thing you can do as you transition into the job search is to inventory your skills. Write down nine things you are good at and three things that you need to grow in. For example, I am punctual, creative, etc. and I need to improve on communication, etc.

    Then as you search for jobs, see how your skills line up with the jobs you are looking at. Could they use someone with your skill set? Would they require too many of your growth skills at once?

    It’s not a fool-proof way of going about looking for jobs, but it’s a good way to start.

  • You know what, I'm kind of glad you did as they didn't sound like they appreciated how hard you were working and all that stress you were under would have been bad for you. 

    I've been a contractor most of my working life so far, and I normally just have to take whatever work is available, but I enjoy the variety. Some people are lucky and have one job for years. Others will do a job until they don't get on with it, then find something else. One thing I've learned that it's the people that make it doable. If your boss is nice and you can get on with the work without stress, it's so much better than a dream job with a boss that makes you miserable. 

    Don't be afraid to try new things to find a job that works for you and doesn't give you burnout!

    The job market can be up and down, you might walk into your next one immediately (I hope not too soon as it's good to have a break), or it can take a while to find the right one. And it gives you a chance to look around and consider new options. Any team will be lucky to have you!