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Anxious about the future

pinkchocoholic

Long story cut short I'm probably handing by notice in at work tomorrow due to mental health issues declining a lot (got told today I was getting stage three disclinary which probably means dismissal so I thought best to hand notice in, at I can't face another dismissal meeting).

I'm anxious about the future,

what if I can't get another job 

what will happen when my parents die will I be able to afford somewhere to live and be okay

what if I find a job but then have to leave due to the and reasons then it happens multiple times so I can never hold a job down

My family are supportive saying they are there for me no matter what and will help me now and in the future, but I still worry about it 

Any advice etc will be appreciated, plus any thing I could do to help me now and in the future

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  • Before handing in your notice STOP AND THINK - how will you pay your bills/food? I've walked out of 2 jobs during my working life but each time was worrying because of money. If you can hold on, do, whilst you look for a job from the secure place you are now. You might not like the job but it represents income and security!! Also, what if those meetings prove you are right - stand up for yourself but try not to get angry.

    There is very good advice below by  . What you are doing is catastrophizing - worrying about everything at once, which is shutting down your 'thinking' mind. I was given a useful exercise by a therapist years ago -

    1. put each of your worries in a different mental folder [if it helps, write them down and put them in separate paper folders] ,

    2. put these imaginary [or real] folders onto an imagined [or real] bookshelf.

    3. you can only take one folder down at a time to examine it

    4. after examining a folder, put it back on the shelf before you take down another

    Chat on here to anyone and try to keep going to social events and hobby clubs; places you feel validated and yourself. This will maintain your mental health whilst you sort this issue out. From a distance in the future, it will not look as bad - keep that in mind too.

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  • Before handing in your notice STOP AND THINK - how will you pay your bills/food? I've walked out of 2 jobs during my working life but each time was worrying because of money. If you can hold on, do, whilst you look for a job from the secure place you are now. You might not like the job but it represents income and security!! Also, what if those meetings prove you are right - stand up for yourself but try not to get angry.

    There is very good advice below by  . What you are doing is catastrophizing - worrying about everything at once, which is shutting down your 'thinking' mind. I was given a useful exercise by a therapist years ago -

    1. put each of your worries in a different mental folder [if it helps, write them down and put them in separate paper folders] ,

    2. put these imaginary [or real] folders onto an imagined [or real] bookshelf.

    3. you can only take one folder down at a time to examine it

    4. after examining a folder, put it back on the shelf before you take down another

    Chat on here to anyone and try to keep going to social events and hobby clubs; places you feel validated and yourself. This will maintain your mental health whilst you sort this issue out. From a distance in the future, it will not look as bad - keep that in mind too.

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