Feeling low as I was bullied online recently by a pen pal and ended up deleting my account. Interpals supposed to be a website for finding pen pals. Now more like nasty, scammers, looking for romance and postal. Used to be really good. Had to break up with a successful one. Triggered something in the past.
Also my routine is a mess and not structured.
My friends say try to keep my routine much I can. Feeling awful. There's a lot going on with my life. I'd mentioned it to my friends on WhatsApp and trustworthy people e.g a local charity in my area. I enjoy reading, photography, nature, colouring and puzzle books. How do I get into a routine?
Also I go to the Women's Institute occasionally. Got afternoon tea with them next week.
Decided to reactivate my pen pal account and explained everything to my successful pen pal. Hopefully she will understand. The other person is blocked permanently.
Forgot to mention that I was feeling upset because a former tennis player dad died which makes things difficult. Very unusual for her to post this on Instagram. He abused her from a young age.
Unfortunately she's the same age as me and nearly taken her own life. I know the feeling.
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling low. Thank you for letting us know how you feel. If you feel that you might need some support with your mental health, you can find advice and information on how to go about seeking help, including links to other resources and details of helplines and listening support services, here: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/seeking-help.
Please do reach out for support if you feel that you're unable to cope.
That‘s already a lot, especially considering that you’re not feeling so good right now! Be proud of that. I know, it sounds silly, but those things are already much more than the bare minimum. And to be honest, I‘ve had days that made it seemingly impossible for me to even step a foot in public.
You‘re pretty strong, don‘t forget that, even when you‘re frustrated.
When I go for a walk, see people I know and all of the flowers [it's no mow may in the UK];
I'll have my morning coffee at 10am [different on a Sunday]; when I could do my puzzle book or coloring.
Saturday and Sunday are laundry days. Alternate Sunday I do the recycling bins, food waste and garden waste for Monday collection. Different when it's a public holiday in the UK.
Most of the time we tend to have far too high expectations as to what a routine should look like. Start with the basics. Able to brush your teeth every morning and evening? Keep it up, that‘s amazing! Wanna be more active? Instead of trying to work out for an hour, start by doing 5 push-ups every morning. You‘re not able to keep it up? That‘s fine, go lower. One single push-up is still better than none.
Check the expectations and demands you put on yourself. Start low enough so you‘re able to keep certain parts of a routine up and improve from there. I know, it‘s easier said than done. There are many people on here who will be happy to support you through advice or even just listening to (or rather reading about) your thoughts and struggles.
Well, that’s unfortunate that you were bullied, I’m sorry about that. But that’s good that you have a community group you meet with and that you have hobbies. Those are very important.
As for forming a routine, make time in your day for participating in those things you enjoy. Maybe a half hour to walk or an hour to color, etc? That time could be important for destress, especially if your day is out of wack and stressful.
