Confusion after interactions

TismTisnt said:

Is there anything I can routinely do to stop the lengthy mental torture of it keep coming back in my mind trying to work out the truth & facts and feel ok?

I use mindfulness to review the discussion, work out what I understood from it, maybe make a note on something I need to research later and make a note of any tasks that need doing as a result of it.

Once the important stuff is captured on paper and added to a calendar them I can categorise this as dealt with and move on to the next thing.

Mindfulness gives me the discipline to shut down the thought loops you talk about, largely because I can look at the notepad and prove I have got a hard copy of anything important that still needs to be taken care of, that I hace notes of things I need to look up if I'm uncertain and if I have any issues around how I feel about something then I have booked a time to sit down and work through this with the help of the emotions wheel and a notepad.

All the uncertainty is nailed down, to-do items are on the list and I have no need to waste effort on thinking about it again.

That's my approach and it works well for me - it isn't easy to master mindfulness but it is a potent tool.

TismTisnt said:

Is there anything I can routinely do to stop the lengthy mental torture of it keep coming back in my mind trying to work out the truth & facts and feel ok?

I use mindfulness to review the discussion, work out what I understood from it, maybe make a note on something I need to research later and make a note of any tasks that need doing as a result of it.

Once the important stuff is captured on paper and added to a calendar them I can categorise this as dealt with and move on to the next thing.

Mindfulness gives me the discipline to shut down the thought loops you talk about, largely because I can look at the notepad and prove I have got a hard copy of anything important that still needs to be taken care of, that I hace notes of things I need to look up if I'm uncertain and if I have any issues around how I feel about something then I have booked a time to sit down and work through this with the help of the emotions wheel and a notepad.

All the uncertainty is nailed down, to-do items are on the list and I have no need to waste effort on thinking about it again.

That's my approach and it works well for me - it isn't easy to master mindfulness but it is a potent tool.

Thank you. I’m going to action this tomorrow.