I think my husband has traits of autism or am autistic, but he has no formal diagnosis as of yet. He's run some tests online and the results from them all say autism, one way or the other.
My guess his mom has autism (but no diagnose) and his dad ADHD (on meds).
When we are with his family, when his dad is around it is as if he's someone else, and I don't like it. It is as if I can't connect to him.
Anxiety runs in the family and we've had some problems with that as in him saying he gets jealous (but snaps out of it) or get worried something's gonna happen to me. I have autism and in the past I've been burned out (recurring depression, anxiety, one time psychosis, lack of sleep) and he took upon the role to take care of me, I guess.
In his own ways he is someone who takes care of us, but do not express easily his thoughts and feelings. It is as if he has ways of just turning off, as if the real world goes on outside and the real him is way, way inside his shell.
As he has recognized, finally, that he has an issue with anxiety and can take med, he's gotten into therapy, but he is still reserved and it's pretty much his business.
We both feel like we're close, but I am unsure how to relate to him when we're with his dad. He has sort off changed too around his dad, more dense if that make any sense, from how he was before so I don't know where all this is going, but it's as if he's still not him, the one I'm used to. I miss him. I can't relate, I don't know if it's because of my autism. For one thing I just want him to be himself like he's with me. The other thing is I am unsure how I am suppose to be, how to be supportive. So looking here for advice.
His dad has been insensitive to him when he grew up about traits that I know off today are autistic ones and I too have them, always had, but never been treated that way because of it by my mom or dad.
