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Struggling to support partner

NAS79234

Hello, 

I have been with my partner for 10 years now and he is currently waiting for an autism diagnosis.

Throughout our relationship he has really struggled in work and often asked to leave but no explanation as to why (mainly agency work). I love him dearly but I feel I am walking constantly on egg shells, yesterday he came home and had a meltdown after being told he has to have his timesheet signed by the manager at the end of his shift. I tried to be calm and let him have his space but he came upstairs to where I was and threw a cup across the room and continously banged his head against the wall saying he can't be around people.

I feel at a loss how to help him, he told his employers he may possibly have autism and I have encouraged him to join this forum but he's not interested. As I said I love him very much but it is now affecting my mental health. Does anyone know if there are medications to reduce the meltdowns? I'm in a dilemma whether I can carry on this relationship, but he tells me if I ask him to leave he will end it all. He has no other family, friends or anywhere to live. 

Sorry for the rant but if anyone has been in a similar situation I would appreciate some advice. 

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  • NAS79234 said:
    Thank you, much appreciated :) 

    You're most welcome!

    NAS79234 said:
    he has tried a few but a lot made him feel exhausted. Do you know any with not too many side effects?

    We're not allowed to give medical advice here (rule 13), which is why I didn't recommend any specific antidepressants or other medications in my previous replies.

    But if your partner is currently without medications - or doesn't feel that any current medications are helping enough, or feels that he's experiencing issues with side-effects - then I'd definitely recommend that he talks to his GP again, to explore other options. 

    If appropriate (eg if they've already tried everything within their armoury), they may also refer him to secondary care, who - in my area, for example - have additional prescribing options.

    Medication efficacy and side effects can vary hugely from person to person, so it's really best to rely on professional advice rather than anecdotal feedback (which is what I'd say even if it wasn't a rule here).

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  • NAS79234 said:
    Thank you, much appreciated :) 

    You're most welcome!

    NAS79234 said:
    he has tried a few but a lot made him feel exhausted. Do you know any with not too many side effects?

    We're not allowed to give medical advice here (rule 13), which is why I didn't recommend any specific antidepressants or other medications in my previous replies.

    But if your partner is currently without medications - or doesn't feel that any current medications are helping enough, or feels that he's experiencing issues with side-effects - then I'd definitely recommend that he talks to his GP again, to explore other options. 

    If appropriate (eg if they've already tried everything within their armoury), they may also refer him to secondary care, who - in my area, for example - have additional prescribing options.

    Medication efficacy and side effects can vary hugely from person to person, so it's really best to rely on professional advice rather than anecdotal feedback (which is what I'd say even if it wasn't a rule here).

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