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I hate pretty people so much

BigNoseGirly0

I’m a ugly woman and notice double standards that a lot of people don’t.

As a random example, you can get away with being a total ***, as long as you’re pretty.

theres two girls at my workplace with the same attitude. However, they get different treatment. Everyone hates the ugly girl for being rude, saying she looks like a bulldog. But nobody says anything about the pretty one and everyone just swoons over her and act like they’re best buds with her.

Obviously, being autistic can effect how you behave, hence, others may think you’re odd. But if you’re conventionally attractive, you can get away with it and be seen as quirky or unique. I knew attractive girls who happened to be autistic, yet, people are willing to talk to them because they’re cute. Meanwhile, I’m the opposite.

it genuinely depresses me knowing how different and better my life would be if I was attractive. 

Upside down

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  • I knew a girl with a big nose once, and I noticed it in conversation, once, and she never spoke to me again.

    I also had a friend who was sensititive about the size of his hooter, I could never understand either of them. 

    Was better than having a clone face that looks like every other one I thought. I liked the grils face, I felt it had character and she seemed to have a sweet personalty. I neevr got to fidn out, all becuase Inoticed a nose...

    Beauty is only skin deep and as much a curse as a blessing for some women I have noticed. 

    If you can contrive not to attract the attention of builders from 100 yards in all direction, but also not to have the visage of a bulldog chewing a wasp, as a woman you have got appearance "nailed down" In my opinion, and that of many men I know, who are oevr 20 yro.

    Never mix advertising with reality, all sorts of misconceptions can arise!

  • in reply to I Sperg

    You may have had good intentions there, but from that lady's perspective you brought up a physical feature in (presumably - apologies if I've misunderstood) a context in which the kind of safe-space intimacy that might allow for such comments had not been put in place some time prior - eg. a romantic relationship or very close friendship in which mutual observations of this kind were offered up with generosity and care. I'm not saying that you went full Gregg Wallace or anything but it's still a little (in your case inadvertently) objectifying. 

    For my own part, I hope I didn't overstep the mark with my own final comment in yesterday's post. BNG, your chosen name seemed to be disclosing something publicly, and with a note of self-criticism (given the thread's nature), so I hope I didn't stray over a line with too much specificity -albeit in the spirit of reassurance- at the end of a more balanced reflection on the issues raised. I will of course apologise unreservedly should you feel that way. 

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