Published on 12, July, 2020
There are people here, (and ocasionally I am one of you) who hate their lives, and really wish they could take a pill and be rid of the Autism
Let's be realistic here, having Autism is like being tall. (I had a much more amusing simile complete with video but I want this topic to get past my current personal censor, so I'll try that in a separate post, I have to, I'm still laughing at the sillness) You have to live with it.
So what hope is there for those like me (at times) who feel utterly overwhelmed and disenfranchised?
And how do we negotiate the basket of co-morbidities that many of us report?
For myself, recenlty I got stuck in a cycle of what seemed to me to be "other peoples" behaviour, but at some point my own propensity for bad behaviour usually quite well suppressed kicked in and I got my self "on the naughty step". Well, I've always respected the moderators decisions as regards myself before this, BUT THIS CHANGES THINGS was, my initial (Autistic?) thinking..
I'm pretty sure it's an autistic thing (why are all the books full of words and ideas and case histories, rather than a simple haynes manual with "box" diagrams and lists of manifestaions and variants etc?) The tendancy to lose ones shi (Oh go-on, "Sitelords" some basic rude worlds really fit...) when faced with sudden restrictions or variation of ones "routine".
Where our Autism I believe spills into the territory of a disabilty or an illness is when we get a strong urge to "DO SOMETHING!!" This is a BAD mental state,(and the more you dislike things or people, or your life the more I hope you test that statement in your mind) akin to Sexual Jealousy, or a psychotic break or the effects of a drug, it's BAD.
In my case it got me on 30 days of well deserved, (and frankly, educational) moderation! BUT when I got that FEELIING of "this changes things" and the strong ideation of "I must do something" I have previously used my Autistic pattern recognition ability to recognise these strong and dangerous urges and I (like many of you, who have also worked this out, you know who you are) have an antidote. "Do nothing out of the ordinary" Seriously, this works like gangbusters, and if the issue tries to grow malignant and insinuate it into your day, then if at all possible, go sleep it off, or just do "displacement activity")
Giving myself time to process and react later (if at all) is a winning strategy that mitigates the Tism.
May I acknowledge and thank Longspoons in particular for a P.M. he sent me about 3 years ago, and which has recenlty been very helpful in terms of getting some insight, buit which seemed to have no useful effect at all at the time I suspect.. There are many other people here, who also deserve a lt of credit for helping me out in P.M.s. For those of you who distrust P.M.'s and see them as "sneaky" there is that, but your real "friends" will use the medium of P.M.'s to warn you that you are making an ass of yourself, in a much nicer way than doing it publically would.
Well that's about all the semi wisdom I have to offer, now how do YOU "mitigate the 'tism"
Desmond79 said:only dead fish go with the flow.
I love this.
It would make a good epitaph for most of us, I suspect?
Number said:smond79 said:only dead fish go with the flow. I love this. It would make a good epitaph for most of us, I suspect?
smond79 said:only dead fish go with the flow.
At the risk of the world turning on its axis, I respectfully disagree! Being a dead fish is different to being a sheep.
Well.....I was about to get all metaphysical on yourass....until I noticed a thing! Now, all I can see, is the thing!!
In your quote above, starting with Number said: ......on the next line, Desmond's name has been curiously shortened to "smond79" ? How the devil did you manage that? I think you might actually have started a pole reversal on planet Earth! Perhaps this will result in dead fish being JUST like sheep......ie dead ?!
M'brain is cooked by ya wordage. Need some unconscious time to process your pole‐flipping, epoch creating, supernova thinking!
[I bet your head is at Oasis now!]
Number said:spitspotslapdishwillynilly
I can't help thinking you are the poor relation of Mary Poppins....
Number said:what you is talking 'bout
....or a Richard Madeley!
I mean about "going with the flow" of what comes our way. I think "going with the flow of yourself" is probably THE hardest thing. We always want less of the bad and more of the good. Going with the flow of the masses is an entirely different kettle of (cray)fish.
I hope wires are suitably tangled further.
Sorry Isperg, 'I done it again!'. How do I mitigate it? Come on here and talk hot air!
Yea, but, right, listen then, don't you reckon that what you is talking 'bout is "going with the flow of yourself" rather than "going with the flow of the masses/Zeitgeist"?
Wot I reckon is that our smond79 was talking 'bout the second of these.......so that means that we is chatting across each other in like a mad crossed wires type situation here. Don't you reckon? Or is I just batsheet cray-cray?
More importantly, you get an upvote in any event because you said spitspotslapdishwillynilly. (although because I can't help myself [autistic, don't ya know].....I did pegg in some previous pre cursoring SS.
Number said:Perhaps this will result in dead fish being JUST like sheep......ie dead ?!
Ok, I get you. ....maybe I should've included the rest of my post saying - if you are able to let yourself go with the flow you can meet yourself half way.......sometimes..... This is very much context dependant. There's a lot we cannot control however much we would like to. As for the truncated quote, I don't know if im missing something, I usually am - but I am very well practised in the arts of "slapdashwillynilly".