How Do Neurotypicals Come Across to Autistic People?

People are interesting, and no one particular group is exclusively better than the other - there are benefits and challenges in both. Some random thoughts that puzzle me:

• Why do they ask questions they don't want the answers to? "How are you"
• Why ask vague questions, rather than being specific? "How are you" or "Did you do anything interesting with your family at the weekend"
• Why don't they actually listen/read what I have said? I take great pains to use precise words/language, but they go off and interpret it, if they read it at all.
• Why do they think they are telepathic, knowing what other people think, but spectacularly fail on telepathy with what an autist thinks? Are they really just projecting themselves on to the other person?
• Why does it take so long to get to the point? Why all the waffle?
• Why is a 'white lie' honest? It's a lie.
• When someone asks you (e.g. interview) for your experience in X, why do they make up a story they think the interviewer wants to hear, rather than tell them what you did in a very similar situation of Y (like someone literal-minded)?
• Why do they have less consideration of the impact of their behaviour, like making noise, outdoor motion-sensor lights, smells, personal space etc. on other people than I do?
• Why do they say one thing when they actually mean another?
• What do I do when their words and body language don't match up?
• If a neurotypical person tells me I "think too much", why is it inappropriate for me to respond with "but what if you don't think enough"?

People are interesting, and no one particular group is exclusively better than the other - there are benefits and challenges in both. Some random thoughts that puzzle me:

• Why do they ask questions they don't want the answers to? "How are you"
• Why ask vague questions, rather than being specific? "How are you" or "Did you do anything interesting with your family at the weekend"
• Why don't they actually listen/read what I have said? I take great pains to use precise words/language, but they go off and interpret it, if they read it at all.
• Why do they think they are telepathic, knowing what other people think, but spectacularly fail on telepathy with what an autist thinks? Are they really just projecting themselves on to the other person?
• Why does it take so long to get to the point? Why all the waffle?
• Why is a 'white lie' honest? It's a lie.
• When someone asks you (e.g. interview) for your experience in X, why do they make up a story they think the interviewer wants to hear, rather than tell them what you did in a very similar situation of Y (like someone literal-minded)?
• Why do they have less consideration of the impact of their behaviour, like making noise, outdoor motion-sensor lights, smells, personal space etc. on other people than I do?
• Why do they say one thing when they actually mean another?
• What do I do when their words and body language don't match up?
• If a neurotypical person tells me I "think too much", why is it inappropriate for me to respond with "but what if you don't think enough"?

In an Irish context, given the Irish cultural “norm” of the cultural concept of “cop on” or of “having cop on” or common sense, most NT’s think of themselves as superior and openly and arrogantly look down on those of us who are autistic and are very patronising, they see us as naughty children (regardless of age) and therefore expect us to “keep quiet” and be “seen and not heard” by reason of our autism, even if not formally diagnosed, constantly telling and reminding us at every opportunity that we “do not understand that we are wrong” regardless of the issue, as coming from us it is automatically deemed to be wrong in some way 

Ohh good one, about thinking too much, when they don't seem to think at all and the smells and noises too.

Why does it seem OK for them or rather male NT's to say rude things to women who are complete strangers, like that they don't like your clothes or 'cheer up love, it may never happen?'

And why say "we should do x some day!" When that actually means "I have no intention of doing and  if you mention this again in a few weeks I'll have forgotten"