Alcoholism

Hi yellow tree. As others have said I think that drinking is so engrained in our culture, that you have to be a bit of a champ at drinking before anyone thinks it's a problem. Now I get addicted to stuff, but I think I manage alcohol ok. Drinking too much too often would concern me of what people thought of me, and affect my job etc. With that said, I love to have a few drinks at the weekend, even at home. If I'm out somewhere, I would say I need the drink to relax and enjoy myself. Without it I'm too quiet, can't keep up conversation, no fun, dry mouth etc. I struggle to draw the line sometimes though. 

I would say a few drinks here and there are fine but sounds like you are maybe using it too regularly to as a coping strategy? Sorry to hear about the fits in bed too. Hope you manage to get the help / change you need

S️tamford

Hi Stamford that is a very helpful thing you have said there. Yes alcohol is engrained in our culture for many reasons. I too like to be drunk like we all do from time to time. Who wouldn’t? It is simply fun! No analytics no nonsense it’s just plain old fun. But hey imagine we could be like our drunk selves without alcohol. How cool would that be? It must be possible I reckon. I’d love to experience that though. I can’t honestly sit here and judge anybody for drinking. Because we all like to have fun. But what if fun was possible or even realistic without it. I just think that would be cool. But honestly some people just don’t need it at all and I kinda envy those people to be honest. I mean even I can go weeks, months or even years without it but I still find myself thinking about it and wanting it again. Which sounds quite pathetic and that’s because it is. To need alcohol to be myself? Geez that’s low. You may as well walk around with a mask on I am thinking to myself. 

Hi Stamford that is a very helpful thing you have said there. Yes alcohol is engrained in our culture for many reasons. I too like to be drunk like we all do from time to time. Who wouldn’t? It is simply fun! No analytics no nonsense it’s just plain old fun. But hey imagine we could be like our drunk selves without alcohol. How cool would that be? It must be possible I reckon. I’d love to experience that though. I can’t honestly sit here and judge anybody for drinking. Because we all like to have fun. But what if fun was possible or even realistic without it. I just think that would be cool. But honestly some people just don’t need it at all and I kinda envy those people to be honest. I mean even I can go weeks, months or even years without it but I still find myself thinking about it and wanting it again. Which sounds quite pathetic and that’s because it is. To need alcohol to be myself? Geez that’s low. You may as well walk around with a mask on I am thinking to myself. 

Yeh that’s fair enough. I wouldn’t go to work parties either they’re too cringey I think. Made that mistake before of going to work nights out. Ended up the girl that was interested in me went for some other guy at my work who just slept with anybody and everybody. Oh well she missed out too just like all the other girls that chose spanner’s over me lol. Oh well I guess they got what they bargained for as all of them ended up getting cheated on or dumped for some other girl. Never tried they things either I watch football though. That’s good that you enjoy it though. I love street parties and all round celebrations. Any way to spend time with people is a bonus. I love doing my own thing and going places. Like festivals and stuff next thing on my list is to go to a rave or something.

Parties? Erm yes and no, I kind of refused to go to one recently because it was with lots of ex colleagues, I said to the wife that I will have to explain what I've been up to for the last few years 20 different times to different people whilst not being able to hear over the music I dont go to the dinner and dance each year that my company puts on either. Actually I sound like a miserable bugger when I write it down. I really like drinking with my friend and chatting with him, watching football / UFC. I really like escape rooms and have you ever tried virtual darts? With the projector computer on the dart board? Brilliant fun I really like them. Our local sports bar has one and boom battle bars have them and shuffleboard. I enjoy that kind of thing! You?

You sound like a good friend. Yeh I like a good drink it’s fun and all. Parties are fun. Do you like parties? What kinda things do you like to do for fun?

Honestly it's not pathetic at all, I think most people l like dutch courage to be a bit more fun!

I would even go as far to say that I can be a better version of myself with a few drinks in me - I'm relaxed, more sociable, funnier etc. I'm not the type to get agitated with alcohol. Once I've had a few I try to get a couple pints of water in before bed and I can feel fine the next day. I usually only drink on a Saturday evening.

The other thing I would say and I've discussed this with my friend, who struggles with alcohol (he sometimes drinks multiple times a week then has periods off of it) it's much better to have a good relationship with alcohol than to abuse it and go cold turkey and demonise it. Although I suppose that's obvious and it's managing that balance that is the difficult part

Yeh they’re a couple a drinks ahead of us good way of looking at it. Basically they already have half in the bag so to speak and we haven’t even started yet lol

I think that some neurotypical people seem to have the ability to be relaxed and have a laugh before they even start drinking, as if they've already had a few!

I don't drink because it doesn't do anything for me, and even a little can make me feel a bit weird, in a way I'm not comfortable with, but I know that for may autistic people it makes them more relaxed, so I understand why they do it.