Published on 12, July, 2020
I recently went for an ASD assessment through the NHS and the outcome was that I’m not autistic. She said to me that if it had been picked up when I was a child then I probably would have gotten a diagnosis but because of my intelligence (apparently, although I am yet to find my brain! Haha) I have become very good at hiding it and adapting. I am also a woman which makes it a lot harder to diagnose. So I don’t have a diagnosis. A assessment was started when I was a child but it was never finished for some reason. I know it sounds weird but I feel so upset by this. I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere in the world and this felt like the answer. The assessor said she thinks I may have ADHD so that means another wait list for however long to find out how my brain works. I don’t want this to come off like one of those people who wants to have ASD because I don’t. I want to be normal and to be able to live like my peers and I don’t.
It's not weird at all to be upset, I feel you. Autism has made sense for you and you feel as though that seems to have faded away as well...but despite not getting the diagnosis, you can still have it. You can be here, you're welcome here, you belong here, you can self diagnose as autistic. I can say I definitely have felt similar things so you're definitely not alone and belong.
You need not worry about wanting to have ASD cause you either have it or don't and your want doesn't affect it at all if you think you might end up 'faking' it, faking is never a thing.
I too wish I could live like my peers, but I'm falling more distant day by day, but there are good differences between me and them too.
Thank you so much for the reply. I really do appreciate it. I can’t seem to get other people to understand why I’m upset about it.
Yeah that’s true. I guess everyone wants answers about why their brain works differently to others.
I feel you! Yeah I think there are lots of things where I’m glad I’m different from other people. It just feels a bit like a big gap at the moment
Could you go for a private assessment? I heard that some charities can help you with the cost... I really hope you can get a diagnosis which actually reflects your experience (ie ASC/ASD). Best of luck and happy Easter...