Published on 12, July, 2020
My son left uni with a masters in physics but can’t get a job. His dad died during his time there so I am the only parent and he lives at home with me and his 22 yr old brother. He stays in his room all day with the curtains shut . He accepts he is different but doesn’t not want to be diagnosed , he refuses to accept interventions to help his mental health. He went to see a therapist who specialises in working with clients with autism. He refused to go back despite her identifying areas to help him. He gets so angry so quickly, my youngest son wanted to move out because he can’t live with the fear of his anger! If I approach him about anything he gets upset and angry . I want to help him , not alienate him. It’s been over 6 months since I have tried to get him to help himself and now I need to try again but don’t know what to do? What area to discuss first ?
Hi...sorry to hear about the situation with your son. You evidently care about him very much.I understand your need to tangibly help him. It sounds like your son is a head-strong young man and knows his own mind. Perhaps it might be useful to simply offer him empathy and love and let him find his own way in the comforting knowledge of your caring support? Sounds easier written than done, I appreciate. Ultimately your son is his own human being and only he can make the choices that are right for him at a given point in time.
Thank you for taking the time to reply. Your last sentence is what I keep saying to myself but I feel I have to try and ensure I am doing my utmost to help before I can settle back into back off say nothing mode and continue on where I am feel so ‘down’