Published on 12, July, 2020
I get a lot of anxiety because of dust, germs + cleaning all the time. I'm a bit of a clean freak but then vice versa I rarely clean because of the anxiety it's a vicious cycle and I feel trapped with it now + it's really bringing me down and I feel it's making my autoimmune problems worse because of the dust and bacteria. I have a chronic sore throat and I'm sure it's because of this.
I live with my parents, dad is always working and my mum has a brain tumour - it's benign but it is growing steadily and has started to impact her sight so she'll likely have it operated this year so I want to keep the house clean + neat and tidy for her and I feel really bad and lazy that it's currently in a really bad place. Sometimes I feel like the worst daughter in the world - I want to help - the intent is there but I'm unable to bring myself to do it because of my anxiety. I worry about stirring up the dust + I don't like how it never looks clean after.
Reading online I've read that some people use car microfiber mittens for dusting rather than cloths - apparently this works really well so I am interested in using one, just to see how good it is - but getting over the initial anxiety is the hard part. It's extra hard now because my mums health is bad and a massive worry but I'm hoping she will make a full recovery.
It feels like everything is happening all at once, like the year my dad got diagnosed with diabetes and my sister died. I'm coping ok at the moment - not on any medication - no longer suffering from mental health - but things are hard and I'm holding on to hope it will all be ok again, eventually.
Before I continue, I feel I should make it clear that I am definitely not a clean freak.Whilst I don't clean my home as often as I feel I should, I consider microfibre cloths to be 'must-have' items. I do have one of those microfibre mittens you speak of, although I've never attempted to use it for dusting. On the rare occasions that I have a burst of energy and feel compelled to clean, I tend to use my vacuum cleaner with a soft-bristled attachment to hoover up the dust, and then wipe over with a slightly damp microfibre cloth to remove any traces of dust that may have been left behind.Depending on what I'm cleaning, I sometimes use a multi-function steam mop, which can be used as a hand-held steam cleaner.
For what it's worth, I think you need to try to cut yourself some slack and stop being so hard on yourself. Although you may sometimes think that you're the worst daughter in the world, I'm sure your parents do not share that opinion. As I see it, you're pitching in with the housework as and when you're able to. Maybe it isn't as often as you would like or think it should be, but I am sure your parents appreciate it.