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How to deal with a bullying parent?

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My dad is a bully and I always seem to want him dead. He makes me very angry and he still likes to bully me. Anyone who does bully me makes me angry and I wish them hell. I bully my dad right back and my mom thinks I’m the one who starts it, but it’s not  me. I hope when he dies he’s in hell and that I don’t have to deal with him anymore. I’m not even going to his funeral. That’s how I feel about bullies. They deserve to be miserable. 

  • in reply to Autimator

    I agree, making bully think his/her actions stopped affecting you works 100%, and makes them angry as a bonus 

  • You can't change your dad if that's how he is, and he might enjoy affecting you so its best to work on how you respond, choose not to engage or bully back as that means he has trained you well, not sure you want to be a clone of him really.   He will keep triggering you, but break this cycle and you will feel better and he will continue to have his own issues causing this.   

  • ah i have similar feeling about mine. theres no need for it, its just unpleasant to live with someone like that and without it we could perhaps be better off mentally in life and progress. if they didnt act the way they did wed be in the place and advancement that they want anyway, their own attitude is whats holding us back in life by adding to mental stress and training in a not bothered quitter attitude. i suspect my dad is a narcissist, maybe yours is too, and maybe theres a link there to narcissistic bullying parents contributing to their childs poor mental health growing up which then forms these personality disorders?

  • in reply to Mariusz

    I had similar thoughts when I thought of standing up to my school bullies. You don't want to become the bully because then you're as bad as she is. Didn't want to go down that path so kept my head down and endured it. Since school ended and I'm away from that I haven't been bullied.

  • in reply to Selena
    Selena said:
    stand up to the bully

    it's a myth. I did when I was 15y.o. I broke a broom on his head. He was lying on a floor, completely drunk and laughing in my face. I felt like my soul got dirty after it, I was terryfied i'll be like him if I continue that path. So what I did not get beaten on daily basis anymore if it meant that my mom and sisters did get more of it.

    Question is: Are you bothered if you'll turn into bully yourself or no? Have you got younger sibilings and there is nobody else but you between them and a bully?

  • They say the best way is to stand up to the bully but of doesn't sound like that's going to work for you. 

    I agree with Mariusz, cut ties and leave to a better place where you don't have to suffer this every day. You shouldn't have to live like this. You deserve to be happy. 

  • I suppose there is only one way, move out and cut contact, just leave them to their own misery

    My 'dad' died some few years ago shortly before Christmas, finally drunk himself to the death

    I was celebrating the best Christmas present ever

    I'm not sure exactly when he died, I can't tell a year even anymore, or where is he buried, all bad memories slowly begin to fade away