Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi
Why am I sad at night? It’s not that I’m sad for a particular reason or that I’m upset to be alone because I don’t mind being by myself in the daytime. But then when nighttime hits, I get extremely sad, sometimes crying-sad. And this only happens when I’m alone.I could just be distracting myself when I spend the night with someone and that’s why I’m not sad. I just want to fall asleep immediately so I can avoid these feelings and wake up happy again.Do any of you guys also experience this? What can I do to help this?
No, I actually love being alone.
More anxiety for me when I'm on my own I guess. I just over think to the point where it gives me a headaches then find my self going nuts cause I have no one to vent too about what's driving me nuts
I get this and it hits me pretty fast, even after a great positive day. Therefore, I think its my mind's way of handling tiredness, or overwhelming moments combined with my default way of over thinking. especially when thinking about the past and the uncertainty of the future. I've noticed I have this thing when I'm feeling super low or feeling particularly bad about a bad experience I feel like someone is standing behind me and putting a gun to my head. I don't feel suicidal to be clear but I've come to understand that its my minds way of reasoning with that memory, feeling or moment. Some people use the phrase 'I wished the ground opened up and swallowed me whole' and I think this is the same thing with me with the gun metaphor. To calm myself I like listening to calming/meditaitve music (apple music has a great playlist) or just white noise. ( the calm app is great for that too). I've recently started working out later in the day and that tires me out and I fall asleep. and also I have starting taking Valerian Root (be careful as it can't be taken with certain medications) and it seems to really let me go to bed and stills my mind. One more thing look into whether you are looking at a device or screen before bed. That makes my mind go into overdrive depending on what I've watched or read before I turn it off.
I think most people get sad at nighttime sometimes - that's when the mind and memory seem to wake up! I find reading really helps - I usually go online and look for feelgood and uplifting reads and it's like going into another world and I find myself invested in the book characters
Just remember even if you are alone there are lots of us feeling the same way!
I am inclined to agree with Peter, as what you have described has all the hallmarks of loneliness. I guess that because options might be limited at night in terms of the activities one can do to pass the time, it can make one more aware of feelings of loneliness.
There are times when I quite enjoy my own company and don't feel in the least bit lonely, irrespective of the time of day. However, if I do go through spells of feeling lonely, I generally tend to find it will be worse at night.
Sadly, I don't think there's an easy answer. Like a lot of things, what might work for one person to ease feelings of loneliness might not work for another.
Yes. Lonelyness. That’s what lonelyness is like, lonelyness and feeling stuck in a rut in life unable to change the things that matter to you. Just stuck in limbo.