Personal hygiene or lack of

Do you know what she doesn't like about showering/washing/bathing? It may be things you wouldn't think of... Some things I couldn't and still can't stand: cold bathroom (very common in UK), cold floor (even more common), a cold shower floor or bathtub (when using it for showering, a wet mat I have to step onto (ughh), cold water (it usually starts cold, so need to find a way of letting the cold water out without touching me), water sprinkling onto my face (slightly more acceptable now but a real issue when I was younger, especially when washing hair - still can't stand fixed showers), bubble bath (because there is this disgustingly cold foam on top of the water), water that's too cold or to hot, smelly face clothes (mum never understood how I can smell anything), shower gel/soap that doesn't feel or smell right, towels that aren't really dry (very common in UK as a result of the first point), the possibility of a wet shower curtain touching me, humid bathroom with water condensing on surfaces, wet hair and having to use a hair dryer... There may be lots of other things she's finding unpleasant about it, maybe you can find out about them and try to minimise them and allow her to choose what she prefers.

Perhaps the 18 thing will pass - if she explains it like that then I guess she does understand that this isn't really the case, at least as long as she is living with other people. Maybe it's a part of growing up and is followed by admitting that some of the things our parents want us to do or not to do are actually making sense.

Do you know what she doesn't like about showering/washing/bathing? It may be things you wouldn't think of... Some things I couldn't and still can't stand: cold bathroom (very common in UK), cold floor (even more common), a cold shower floor or bathtub (when using it for showering, a wet mat I have to step onto (ughh), cold water (it usually starts cold, so need to find a way of letting the cold water out without touching me), water sprinkling onto my face (slightly more acceptable now but a real issue when I was younger, especially when washing hair - still can't stand fixed showers), bubble bath (because there is this disgustingly cold foam on top of the water), water that's too cold or to hot, smelly face clothes (mum never understood how I can smell anything), shower gel/soap that doesn't feel or smell right, towels that aren't really dry (very common in UK as a result of the first point), the possibility of a wet shower curtain touching me, humid bathroom with water condensing on surfaces, wet hair and having to use a hair dryer... There may be lots of other things she's finding unpleasant about it, maybe you can find out about them and try to minimise them and allow her to choose what she prefers.

Perhaps the 18 thing will pass - if she explains it like that then I guess she does understand that this isn't really the case, at least as long as she is living with other people. Maybe it's a part of growing up and is followed by admitting that some of the things our parents want us to do or not to do are actually making sense.

I am afraid I cannot give any advice specifically but the answers so far seem very good.oktanol may I say you have just made me aware that all the things you listed pretty much apply to me.The list of commonality continues,never gave it much thought before! Thank you.

I hope the OP manages to find a way to guide her daughter as she will need to adapt for her own well being if this continues.