Published on 12, July, 2020
I am a single mother struggling to cope with my son`s violent behaviour and it`s tearing us apart, he is a controlling, manipulative bully-because I am his main carer it is aimed at me as I do not have any supportive family or friend`s, at school he manages to control his behaviour but is unhappy and when he gets home he takes all his anger out on me, he is also verbally abusive towards me. It's taken me 5 years to fight for him to see a psychologist - out of this my son has been seeing a behavioural therapist and his therapist agrees my son needs to be put on medication but because my son controls his behaviour at school and not at home he does not think the psychologist will agree to this.
I can't go on like this anymore and I know I cant allow my son to behave this way and it is unacceptable, he does face concequences for his negative behaviour but he is devoid of any emotion of guilt for the way he behaves,.
I just want to offer a suggestion regarding 'proof' of his behavior in private': buy, or borrow, a 'nanny cam' and recorder but I suggest that you DO NOT let him know about it, or that he is being recorded...
Iit sounds to me as though he is 'using you' as a 'pressure release' because he knows you are 'going to be there - no matter what'... and I am sure that you are concerned that this might be a far worse situation as he grows into a young man, so I do deeply hope for a caring professional to step in with possible courses of action that may offer a real solution,... and the best outcome for your family...
But as to the 'nanny cam/recorder' - such would be an unbiased electronic observer of sorts... this might help to establish a witness to the degree of his behavior and might facilitate some quicker action and results..
Good luck dear...