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Kiwi mummy new to ASD

MeeMoo
over 8 years ago

Hi everyone

Feeling quite emotional right now as our only son (3 yrs) has just been diagnosed with autism.  

We have struggled with some difficult behaviours for a long time, namely lack of language and extraordinary tantrums. So I suppose a diagnosis is a good thing because we can now move this forward and get him some langauge therapy.

He has some totally endearing traits as a result of his ASD too, but which I am now seeing in a new light. I feel like there is suddenly a distinction to be made between what's "him" and what's the "condition". I feel like I don't know him so well anymore. Am I crazy for thinking this way? How do I stop doing that?

Logically, I realise ASD is just a classification, a brain type, and nothing has changed about my son. But at the same time we have opened the doors to a condition of which I know little, and I am overwhelmed by what that means and what is to come.

I'm hoping this forum will be a good source of support, especially from other parents who have struggled with the language difficulties and those very intense tantrums.

Seeking your valuable insights for a confused and scared parent.

- MeeMoo (as named by our son!)

  • over 8 years ago

    Thanks Crystal :)

    I'm gonna check out the parenting forum and see if anyone can help me with the tantrums....




     

  • over 8 years ago

    Hi Kiwi mum - welcome to the forums.  Your reactions and concerns are normal following diagnosis.  There's a lot to get your head around.  Don't try to learn everything at once - bite sized chunks of info is best imo.  Check out the posts - loads of info to guide you.  Ask anything you want.  Routine is very important.  A visual timetable for each day should help your child with his anxiety about what comes next.  Has he got any sensory issues such as noise, smells, touch, etc?  Tell us a bit more and people will join in.