My daughter has been diagnosed this week with Aspergers.

Hi, I am quite new here too and although I don't have a formal diagnosis yet I know several people who do and every one of them has said that it is better now that they know they aren't just 'weird' or 'have something wrong with them' it has a name and a set of difficulties that come with it but also has benefits. Now that you know, you can begin to learn about it, and your daughter is at an age where she will be able to learn coping strategies to deal with some of the things she finds difficult before having to navigate into adulthood in the dark.

You said you feel lost and in the dark just now, I have often felt like that trying to pin down what made me feel so out of touch. What helped me a lot was to know that there is a difference in the way that Aspergers presents in males than it does in females. Until now it was very underdiagnosed until these differences were recognised, so many books onf the subject dealt solely with males. If you and your daughter would like to read more about it I can reccommend several books that I have found very helpful.

* Aspergirls by Rudy Simone - very informative with a section in each chapter with advice for parents, and a section for daughters.
* I am Aspienwoman but Tanya A Marshall - Lots of colourful photography and helpful comments from many different women with a variety of interests to show how diverse aand positive it can be.
* Nerdy, Shy and Socially Inappropriate by Cynthia Kim - this one in particular has been so vastly helpful for me. It says on the cover "A user guide to an Asperger life" and it really does feel like a guide to living and navigating society. I highly reccommend this one to everyone because I connected so well to it.


I hope some of this is helpful, just remember that neither of you are alone in this.

Hi, I am quite new here too and although I don't have a formal diagnosis yet I know several people who do and every one of them has said that it is better now that they know they aren't just 'weird' or 'have something wrong with them' it has a name and a set of difficulties that come with it but also has benefits. Now that you know, you can begin to learn about it, and your daughter is at an age where she will be able to learn coping strategies to deal with some of the things she finds difficult before having to navigate into adulthood in the dark.

You said you feel lost and in the dark just now, I have often felt like that trying to pin down what made me feel so out of touch. What helped me a lot was to know that there is a difference in the way that Aspergers presents in males than it does in females. Until now it was very underdiagnosed until these differences were recognised, so many books onf the subject dealt solely with males. If you and your daughter would like to read more about it I can reccommend several books that I have found very helpful.

* Aspergirls by Rudy Simone - very informative with a section in each chapter with advice for parents, and a section for daughters.
* I am Aspienwoman but Tanya A Marshall - Lots of colourful photography and helpful comments from many different women with a variety of interests to show how diverse aand positive it can be.
* Nerdy, Shy and Socially Inappropriate by Cynthia Kim - this one in particular has been so vastly helpful for me. It says on the cover "A user guide to an Asperger life" and it really does feel like a guide to living and navigating society. I highly reccommend this one to everyone because I connected so well to it.


I hope some of this is helpful, just remember that neither of you are alone in this.