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I'm a neurotypical wife with husband possibly on autism spectrum

ButterfliesInJune
over 8 years ago

Hello,

My husband and I are trying to walk through this together as he is learning that he believes he is on the autism spectrum (he uses the word Asbergers, but I know that term is not allowed on this forum unless the person uses it him/herself and he's fine with it.).

I'm in America. My husband is in the UK. There's a lot of resources out there for those on the Autism Spectrum, but I don't see much for spouses who are Neurotipical. I'm finding that frustrating as I, also, need help through it all.

I'm a very proud wife of my husband. Love him so much! I want to be the best wife I can be for him.

Thanks for any help.

  • over 8 years ago

    Hi Jeanne,

    It's great that I have helped you in some way and that you are starting to seek the support you need for yourself as well as your husband. Please don't hesitate to contact us if you ever feel you need support. In the meantime, keep letting us know how you are doing in the community and we are always here to help you. Smile

    Thanks for your comment,

    Sofie Mod

  • over 8 years ago

    Hi Sofie,

    I have so appreciated your support. It motivated me to take action and I now have the support of the local police. I also took my husband to the GP today and insisted on a CMHT referral. He has increased his medication quite a lot and is making sure an urgent referral is made to get us both the support we need. 

    It was you who inspired me to do all this, I had felt so alone. Thank you.x

  • over 8 years ago

    Hi Jeanne,

    This is not uncommon to have problems getting through on the helpline as we can get busy. It is possible to email the helpline which may be easier for you. Please keep in contact with us via the community and let us know how you are doing as we care about your welfare.

    Sofie Mod

  • over 8 years ago

    Thank you Sofie, I have tried to make contact but the telephone operators are always too busy to take my call. Thank you for your concern though it is much appreciated as I do feel very alone and frightened dealing with his behaviour.

  • over 8 years ago

    Hi Jeanne,

    Just a bit concerned about your post. If your husband is in any way violent towards you then you should contact the police. If you want to talk to someone about his behaviour it may be worth contacting our helpline which you can also email. The Samaritans can also provide you with support if you want.

    If you need any further support, please don't hesitate to contact us

    Sofie Mod

  • over 8 years ago

    Any ideas of how I can get support when my husband gets violent?