Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I'm the father of three kids, two are on the spectrum, the eldest is 14. My wife and I are struggling to find a way to support him in finding his way through increasing school pressure, adolescence and independance. Whilst he pushes for more freedom, he needs daily reminders to perform basic domestic tasks our ten year old picked up a long time ago. We swing from overseeing everything to putting it in his hands, neither approach sees much progress. He's hard on himself and we don't want to contribute to his lack of esteem, at the same time we know how important it is for him to stand on his own feet.
I'd welcome contact from anyone who recognises the dilema. We're tired and running out of new ideas.
Hi,
No one goes through tragic events unaffected and those of us with the innate desire to empathise will always feel the pain of others. To survive with a generosity of spirit intact is something to take pride in though Coogybear,. Learning not to estimate your own worth through how others perceive or treat you is a massive step that many people never achieve. Once you do, it's such a liberating step, but it takes faith in your own good intentions and self-worth. I no longer care what anyone thinks about me, other than those I love. I know I'm well meaning and that if people care to take the time to know me they will see that. I have a friend who never fails to be upset when someone treats them badly, however unpleasant a person that might be. Whereas the more you become confident in your own worth, the less you care about the views of people who command no respect through their behaviour or attitude. He's desperate to be liked by anyone he meets, whereas I don't wish to be liked by people who don't respect me, quite the reverse in fact.