Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I'm the father of three kids, two are on the spectrum, the eldest is 14. My wife and I are struggling to find a way to support him in finding his way through increasing school pressure, adolescence and independance. Whilst he pushes for more freedom, he needs daily reminders to perform basic domestic tasks our ten year old picked up a long time ago. We swing from overseeing everything to putting it in his hands, neither approach sees much progress. He's hard on himself and we don't want to contribute to his lack of esteem, at the same time we know how important it is for him to stand on his own feet.
I'd welcome contact from anyone who recognises the dilema. We're tired and running out of new ideas.
Ps.
Just a thought, but for your own well-being have you considered Mindfullness?
I've suffered with depression for most of my life and a couple of years ago it was quite deep.
I did finally have access to an excellent councellor who has truly helped, but she also introduced me to mindfulness and it's enabled me to recognise my stresses more easily and make them a little more manageable.
After all we often forget to take care of ourselves as parents, don't we.
Take care,
Coogybear