Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, l am new to this page. I am hoping someone maybe able to offer some advice.
My son is 11 years old and is autistic, or as he likes to say, his super power.
He is such an intelligent little boy but we are struggling with his behaviour at times. He swears but even when l hear him he says he didn't do it. Sometimes spitting but again he will say he didn't do it. He will trybto hurt his brother but say it wasn't him. He hides things but says it was not him even when we know it was. When we try to talk to him about what he has done he gets really agitated and upset that we are saying he did these things. I have tried to work out if they occur when he is under any stressed but nothing is obvious.
I have spoken with the school and they have tried talking with him but it has not made a difference. At this time there has not been any issues in school.
Does anyone have any experience on how to manage this?
Communication Difficulties: Children with autism often have challenges with communication and understanding social cues. His denial of the behavior may be a coping mechanism to avoid confrontation or because he genuinely doesn't perceive his actions the way others do.
Sensory Sensitivities: Autistic children can have heightened sensory sensitivities, which may lead to behaviors like spitting or swearing as a response to sensory overload or discomfort.
Routine and Predictability: Many children with autism thrive on routine and predictability. Sudden changes or unanticipated events can be stressful, leading to challenging behaviors.
Difficulty with Self-Regulation: Your son may struggle with self-regulation, which includes managing emotions and impulses. This can result in behaviors like aggression or spitting.
Behavioral Interventions:
Clear and Consistent Communication:
Calming Techniques:
Functional Behavior Analysis (FBA):
Structured Environment:
Social Skills Training:
Professional Support:
Collaborative Approach:
Regular Communication:
It's important to approach your son's behavior with understanding and patience. Challenging behaviors in children with autism often stem from difficulties in communication, sensory sensitivities, and emotional regulation. By using structured, consistent, and positive approaches, you can help him develop better ways to express himself and manage his behavior. If needed, seeking support from professionals with experience in autism can provide additional guidance and effective strategies.
I remember when my son was 11 years old, and we faced many of the same challenges. He is autistic, which he proudly calls his superpower. Despite his incredible intelligence, we struggled with his behavior. He would swear, spit, and sometimes try to hurt his brother, only to deny it when confronted. Even though we knew he did these things, he would get agitated and upset when we tried to talk to him about it. It was frustrating because nothing seemed to make a difference, not even discussions with his school.
Then, I decided to try a new approach. I started using positive reinforcement, rewarding him immediately for good behavior with things he valued. I also introduced social stories to help him understand what was expected of him and the consequences of his actions.
Communication became simpler and more direct. I used visual aids to clearly communicate rules and expectations. We practiced calming techniques together, like deep breathing and using a stress ball, which helped him manage his emotions.
I worked with a behavior analyst to conduct a Functional Behavior Analysis (FBA), identifying the triggers for his behavior. We maintained a structured and predictable environment at home, using schedules and timers to provide order.
We also focused on social skills training to help him interact appropriately with others and resolve conflicts. Regular communication with his school ensured that the strategies we used at home were also implemented in the classroom.
Over time, these efforts paid off. My son became brilliant in class, and his behavior improved significantly. After school, he began learning technical skills and developed a passion for video editing. Now, he's an expert in video editing using Alight Motion, a talent that brings him joy and a sense of accomplishment.
Our journey wasn't easy, but with patience and the right strategies, my son has flourished. His superpower truly shines now, both in school and in his creative pursuits.