Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone .
My name is Philip , I'm 42 years old and after waiting for 3 years I was diagnosed with ASD on the 30h November 2022. I am very surprised with the diagnosis . I've always known there was something 'different' about me but I never imagined it was ASD .
I was my fathers carer for many years and we kind of looked after each other . He knew how to deal with me ,he was always kind , patient and would always explain things in a way I understood but he passed away in 2020 from Cancer.
I have been under the care of the Community Mental Health team who caused me more distress and difficulty. Now I have been discharged because they don't deal with people with ASD and with no services in my area which have all apparently been closed due to lack of funding , I am isolated and alone.
For the most part I thrive and love being alone but since we are social animals it would be nice to be able to relate and connect with other people. I have never had friends , I have no family , the only contact with people I have is with an Ex Neighbour who has been amazing, I can never thank him enough for how he's helped me but he has a family and his own responsibilities, I want to remain as unobtrusive as possible.
I am hesitant to come here because of how I've been treated by people in the past . I was abused by my Mother when I was younger ,bullied, taken advantage of and mocked by people because of my differences. If I had a pound for every time I was called 'weird' I'd be opening an Animal sanctuary to help poorly animals and the entrance would have a statue of a fox with a butterfly on their nose ( I love foxes )
It seems there are more cruel people than there are kind ones and coming here is my last attempt at making some kind of contact with people. I have often spoken with the Samaritans which have made me more self conscious with their comments, I don't think they mean to be . Maybe there should be a free phone service for people with ASD ... I don't know.. I have never actually spoken with people with the condition. I was always under the stereotype of people with ASD being very highly intelligent where as I'm an idiot.
I haven't wrote any of this for Sympathy , don't get me wrong .I unfortunately am too honest for my own good.
Thank you for taking the time to read my introduction and take care.
hi! I was diagnosed with autism less than a month ago. I am 41 years old. I can relate with much of what you said. I have trouble making friends because I believe that most people are not kind and caring. rather, they are deceptive and manipulative for personal gain. luckily, once I receive the paperwork confirming my diagnosis, I can join a local program for autistic adults that includes opportunities to socialize with other autists. I'm excited and look forward to meeting other people like me as I have recently realized that all my real friends are also autistic. it's like I had some innate preference for autistic people. I can't imagine what it would be like to have access to a fountain of autistic people that could potentially be my friends.
additionally, I joined this forum less than a week ago and have been surprised by the validation I received from reading other people's posts and comments. hopefully, this forum will provide you with that and also the socialization you are seeking.
Hello All My Friends Are Autistic. Hope you're okay .
I believe NT's are manipulative , cruel and heartless people out for personal gain . I have only been here for a very short time ( 2 days ) and I have found the people here genuine , caring and have warmly welcomed me. It's very refreshing to be around people who you don't have to explain yourself too , who understand and can relate to how you feel . I really hope you go from strength to strength and things get nothing but better for you .
Thank you very much for your kind words and take care
yes, exactly why. and thank you!
Are you crazy / broken because you've been made to feel that way ?You'll always have everyone's support here. I'll always listen and offer help if I can. You're never alone
I'm not okay, but I'm improving. Thank you for your hope. I will definitely use it ️
I agree with everything you just said. I feel less crazy/broken now that someone else naturally gets it. Ahhhh, validation
You're welcome, and I'm happy that it's looking like you have found your people