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NAS85157
over 1 year ago
Hi, I have just joined and have a couple of questions I am seeking advice for.
My son is in a high coin unit. He has a diagnosis of asd, adhd and we think he has VD or DLD also. His behaviour became disruptive in the classroom last term. He is having an Emergency Review soon where we will discuss a transition.
He is not at all disruptive at home.
My two questions are:
1. He has been described as calmer this term, however becomes dysregulated when a Visitor comes into the unit. The staff prepare children with visuals however this is not working for him. Would you of other support that staff could implement?
2. When a Visitor came in last week his behaviour was described by the Teacher as ‘violent’. Last term when he kicked a staff and he has thrown some items in the classroom he was also described as violent. The term violent does not sit quite right with me. Have you any advice if this is a term that is used or is there an alternative?
I Tutor and support children with a PDA profile and cannot ever imagine I would use this word.
Parents
  • over 1 year ago
    NAS85157 said:
    high coin

    never heard of this?

    NAS85157 said:
    VD or DLD

    The only VD I know is venereal disease which seems unlikely. Would you like to expand those acronyms?

    NAS85157 said:
    becomes dysregulated when a Visitor comes into the unit.

    I'm not persuaded the term dysregulated is at all useful in general and this sentence is a good example of this. I want to know how he reacts to the visitor. Is he afraid of them, angry with them? Angry with the teacher. What does he say. Has he been asked why he doesn't like visitors?

    More generally it's been my observation that physical force ... if you prefer the term to violence, is used in lieu of conversation as a form of communication. He can't make them understand how angry he is and why he is angry so he uses physical force on them. It's a pattern he probably learnt from adults who probably use physical force on him whenever they are frustrated and unable to persuade him to do what they want.

    Either way the solution is more conversation. Asking him how he feels, what he wants, why he wants it. Argument and negotiation. etc.

  • over 1 year ago in reply to Peter
    Peter said:
    I'm not persuaded the term dysregulated is at all useful in general and this sentence is a good example of this

    I think the term is applicable to the word violence. But his use of stimulants could be to blame for this [possible spam removed] series of actions, and if negotiations don't work out, what's next?

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to Peter
    Peter said:
    I'm not persuaded the term dysregulated is at all useful in general and this sentence is a good example of this

    I think the term is applicable to the word violence. But his use of stimulants could be to blame for this [possible spam removed] series of actions, and if negotiations don't work out, what's next?

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to NAS85932
    NAS85932 said:
    I think the term is applicable to the word violence. But his use of stimulants could be to blame for these positive s words  and a series of actions, and if negotiations don't work out, what's next?

    Seriously? The term "dysregulated" has nothing to do with violence. When someone is "dysregulated", they are unable to control their emotions (especially children.) Again, it has absolutely nothing to do with violence.