Published on 12, July, 2020
NAS85157 said:high coin
never heard of this?
NAS85157 said:VD or DLD
The only VD I know is venereal disease which seems unlikely. Would you like to expand those acronyms?
NAS85157 said:becomes dysregulated when a Visitor comes into the unit.
I'm not persuaded the term dysregulated is at all useful in general and this sentence is a good example of this. I want to know how he reacts to the visitor. Is he afraid of them, angry with them? Angry with the teacher. What does he say. Has he been asked why he doesn't like visitors?
More generally it's been my observation that physical force ... if you prefer the term to violence, is used in lieu of conversation as a form of communication. He can't make them understand how angry he is and why he is angry so he uses physical force on them. It's a pattern he probably learnt from adults who probably use physical force on him whenever they are frustrated and unable to persuade him to do what they want.
Either way the solution is more conversation. Asking him how he feels, what he wants, why he wants it. Argument and negotiation. etc.
VD is verbal dyspraxiaDLD is developmental language disorder
high Coin is high communication needs
I am a bit shocked about learnt behaviour comment. I have never seen anyone kick my son
so yes he cannot verbalise and let us know exactly what the problem is. Maybe it is that someone unknown is coming into their classroom and his frustration is more so as he cannot verbalise well at all.
I have had a reply in another group where instead of using the term ‘violent’ this should be described as ‘dysregulated’. I agree with this.
NAS85157 said:I am a bit shocked about learnt behaviour comment. I have never seen anyone kick my son
No it typically wouldn’t be kicking. But kids frequently get picked up, dragged places they don’t want to go. Slapped on the wrist from time to time or by more traditional parents spanked. The application of physical force to get your way. From an adults perspective there can be a million miles of difference between kicking someone in the shin and dragging them across the room but to a child it can be a meaningless distinction.
if he can’t communicate at all, verbally, in writing, through hand signals or cards etc, then I’m not sure there is much you can do? But if it’s that bad he’s probably a candidate for one to one teaching anyway?
Thank you for this considered reply.
He should have an additional 1-1 time but as it appears across the country, the positions are not being applied for. He does learn better in quieter spaces,and well we are working on a few areas to improve areas of support, as we have done for a few years. Parts of the system are as the expression goes, like wading through treacle.