Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there good people. I am hoping to talk to fellow ND folks in a world of NT folks.
I am female, recently diagnosed at the age of 46. To be honest, it just confirmed my suspicions for the last 6 years or so. It was through the NHS. I already have a psychiatrist as I also have schizophrenia and she also does the Autism assessments in our county. She fast tracked me so I only waited a year.
I find that after a couple of hours of talking to and being with NT people I want to poke my own eyes out and start screaming. Does anyone else feel like this? For what it's worth, my partner of 13 years also thinks he is Autistic but is very happy with it and doesn't think there would be anything to gain by persuing a diagnosis.
I really want to connect with fellow Autistic people and make some friends.
Hello there. I'm 60, male, not formally diagnosed but will pursue it after dithering far too long (and one disappointment where GP got in the way). In my opinion if you can manage two hours talking to and being with NT people you are doing very well... but it does use up a lot of spoons (energy/mental resources).
For quite a few years I worked in the Maths dept of a university so there were quite a few non-typicals to interact with, but plenty of normies too. They all spoke in their private code and then acted offended if I asked what they meant. I found that some self-disclosure helped and I had a couple of simple 'reasonable adjustments' made. One was a blind for the glass panel in the office door so that every single person traipsing to the toilet or the kettle didn't distract me. On noisy days I used earplugs to cut some of it out.
'They' don't mean any harm, most of them, but in larger doses are very draining.
Have a good day. D