Hair Brushing

I use (for my own long, thick, tangle-prone hair - although these combs were not designed with my type of hair in mind - they work for me so that is my comb design preference) ...the widest-toothed sooth plastic comb like one of these:

https://www.superdrug.com/hair/hair-combs/superdrug-extra-wide-afro-comb/p/763088 

...holding a small section of hair off of the shoulders, grasp it well without tugging the scalp, comb-out all the bottom end sections first, and then gradually work your way up towards the scalp.

Some people say to comb through conditioner to detangle - but I do not like the fragrance and sensation of most conditioners.

Loved this article to try some other top tips:

https://www.neondaisy.org.uk/community-tips/hair-care 

When I was your Daughter's age, my Grandmother used to sit me down to comb-out my hair (so it was less of a tug of war as the Autistic young me would (vestibular issue) wobble around too much if stood up).  She also sometimes used to encourage me to sit there with me also brushing / combing / styling the long hair of one of my dolls (sort of a bit distracted as I was copying / learning by watching as my Grandma tackled my tangles of a morning!). 

Sometimes, although only 4 or 5 years of age, if I was super-grumpy for some reason, my Mother would try holding up a mirror for me (like at a salon when they show you the finished hairdo) and she would encourage me to have a go at combing my own hair for a bit.  Having (hopefully) chilled out towards a bit less grumpy about it ...my Mother would then take over to finish the combing and complete the style for going to school.

When I was in secondary / high school, sometimes I would put it into long plaits before it was fully dry and keep it like that (no tangles and looked acceptably tidy for school etc.).

Hope you find a few options to rotate through to suit you both before too long. 

I use (for my own long, thick, tangle-prone hair - although these combs were not designed with my type of hair in mind - they work for me so that is my comb design preference) ...the widest-toothed sooth plastic comb like one of these:

https://www.superdrug.com/hair/hair-combs/superdrug-extra-wide-afro-comb/p/763088 

...holding a small section of hair off of the shoulders, grasp it well without tugging the scalp, comb-out all the bottom end sections first, and then gradually work your way up towards the scalp.

Some people say to comb through conditioner to detangle - but I do not like the fragrance and sensation of most conditioners.

Loved this article to try some other top tips:

https://www.neondaisy.org.uk/community-tips/hair-care 

When I was your Daughter's age, my Grandmother used to sit me down to comb-out my hair (so it was less of a tug of war as the Autistic young me would (vestibular issue) wobble around too much if stood up).  She also sometimes used to encourage me to sit there with me also brushing / combing / styling the long hair of one of my dolls (sort of a bit distracted as I was copying / learning by watching as my Grandma tackled my tangles of a morning!). 

Sometimes, although only 4 or 5 years of age, if I was super-grumpy for some reason, my Mother would try holding up a mirror for me (like at a salon when they show you the finished hairdo) and she would encourage me to have a go at combing my own hair for a bit.  Having (hopefully) chilled out towards a bit less grumpy about it ...my Mother would then take over to finish the combing and complete the style for going to school.

When I was in secondary / high school, sometimes I would put it into long plaits before it was fully dry and keep it like that (no tangles and looked acceptably tidy for school etc.).

Hope you find a few options to rotate through to suit you both before too long.