Diagnosis at 36

Hi,

I've finally been diagnosed after a lifetime of struggle. I'm a 37 year old woman (diagnosed last year) who's coming to terms with bring autistic. I've suffered from depression, anxiety and OCD since childhood, alongside sensory issues and chronic pain (which I fully believe is related to my autism). 

I don't know how to deal with what I've been told. I feel like my life could have been so different with a little more support and understanding (both from myself and my family). My husband knows of my diagnosis but I haven't told my family as they're not very open minded and tend to brush off anything I say, even though they have watched me struggle. I also have a history of substance abuse - I use to escape reality (I am currently sober but don't want to fall back).

Id love to hear from any other adult women who deal with the same. Maybe we can share coping strategies or perhaps you have some advice to help me through.