Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi
I am currently 26 years old and a male. I have Asperger’s syndrome. I am also gay and over the few years I have suffered from poor levels of socialisation and loneliness which is leading to sadness and isolation. There have been many groups of people that I have been involved with and want to be involved more however my main barrier is making friends and communicating better with the people that I love being around. However most of the time I seem to be standing or sitting on my own as I don’t have the confidence or know what too say when sitting next too people. It feels like I’m invisible to them and it really gets too me that I can’t push myself to go and talk too people properly or sit with them. I am currently part of a club which is female dominated and it breaks my heart too see that I can’t get involved with the social side of things with them. I just feel so pushed aside and different too everyone else. My social skills are very poor and want to be involved much more with people socially because I do suffer from loneliness and it really hurts me mentally.
Can anyone help?
Well, i've been there mate and the only thing i can say is.....just be yourself. Not everyone is an extrovert and its ok to be quiet. I used to get paranoid thinking why i couldnt be like everyone else. Some people, i could get along with.....the majority, i didnt get how they operated. Thats fine. Find your crowd. Personally, i like my own company and thats fine. We are hardwired to seek company but......the autistic brain cant compute what the hell people go on about if that makes sense? People will be drawn to your energy regardless....as you get older you give less cares