Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello,
I got diagnosed 7months ago, just before my 28th birthday. Ever since people have been telling me that all my social issues will be solved by going on forums and finding people who share my interests, but the problem is I don't really have any. I like things but not so intently that a person's negative opinion about them wouldn't make me consider dropping that interest. And I don't know lots about stuff I like. I like movies but like I've never seen most of the big ones people seem to always want to talk about. I remember when I heard my friends watched Community I was like "Oooh I've seen that!!" And then they made all these references I didn't get and I started to wonder if I'd missed half the show.
So yeah, here's me trying to join a community forum when I don't even know what I want to talk about with you
Feeling like my head was in a fog most of my 20s, I sympathise.
There is a technique to discovering what you might secretly be good at and what you might be passionate about and they may not be the exact same things. Within both of these things are big areas which might incorporate things we're not good at but it wouldn't hurt to better ourselves in and there might even be another circle of things one just enjoys or can wind down with.
Not everyone will become specialised. But we need to take time just for ourselves. Selfish time we protect from others to be able to explore. This could mean signing up for a range of workshops: glass blowing, electronics, wood working, gardening, cooking, etc. These would all be things to try and see if they spark interest. Another exploration would be a day at the library. Once a week. And just peel though shelves. You won't ever be introduced to this range of ideas online, as algorithms can be limiting and might not allow us to see something we'd never have thought of. Just some ideas! Mid 30's I realised I had always loved a few things I was discouraged from learning. I've recently decided in my late 40's I'll probably go to uni finally and get a degree in them :)
JuniperFromGallifrey said:etc.
so I signed for fencing course
Oh that's brilliant!! You must tell us how you get on.
Well, I don't think it will be challenging in regard to stamina, not for me, but I was the most clumsy in my class at school, and I hope I made some progress here after years of manual labour, then there is my barely functional wrist of my primary right hand, that will eventually stop being functional as predictions say, so the plan is to learn doing it lefthanded, it might be easier with something I haven't done before
I need to test some of my crazy fencing theories in practise for the book I'm writing
I could say that finding ways to shoot two birds with one stone is my special interest :P