Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi Everyone
Am a mum of a 19 year old young man.
We are struggling with some behavioural issues currently which is socially challenging.
He loves to be involved in everybody’s life especially the neighbours and would get really stressed out and aggressive when he has not been invited to any gatherings. He talks to the neighbours through the windows, interfering in everything. He gets especially angry when he has not been invited into parties and would keep hanging around the fence pretending to make a conversation.
Do I explain to the neighbours what his condition is?
I have tried to explain to him using social stories that he behaviour is socially inappropriate but he does not really understand, this leads to aggressive behaviour towards me.
I have tried all strategies I know and none seem to work.
has any experienced a similar behaviour and what have they tried that worked.
thanks
^^^^^^^ What Peter says - it sounds like he's absolutely desperate for friends and interaction but has not been introduced to a normal social life - and people saying no seems irrationally unfair to him - in his eyes. If he's getting aggressive to get his own way, that won't work very well with others. Has he been over-sheltered from the world?
What childhood hobbies did he have? Try finding the adult equivalent and see if he can interact with others with similar interests.
Well I would say he doesn't feel like he has much of a social life so he is finding ways to insert himself into other peoples social lives even when he's not wanted. You can use all the social stories you like but to him they'll probably just sound like excuses as to why he has to acept living in loneliness. My advice would be concentrate on getting him a social life of his own, if you can show him things can change in that area of his life getting him to stop butting in in other peoples lives will probably be a lot easyer.