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Hi Katrina,

welcome to this forum

having a good Christmas ?

tell us something about yourself.

i used to keep lizards i think u may have at least one.

His name is Mushu and is a bearded dragon. He's such a sweetie. And about myself. Ummmmmm. Well I love animals, gaming and gardening. 

As for Christmas it's been okay. Been a really hard year. 

I did yeah and that really helped

yes  its possible --- the "secret/hidden"  one is walking mindfulness mediation.  walking the dog is like a version of it.  did u walk your dog on a regular basis ?

I'll try anything that might help

I've tried loads of different types. (Perhaps I just haven't found the right one. 

i am just wondering if u got mindfulness correct I am still working on my mindfulness ( daily living and formal meditation ) 

what do u call mindfulness ?

Oh :/

wow   u tried the 2 best things i can suggest

Social situations and being stressed at everything :/ I've tried mindfulness techniques which doesn't help. I think it's because they focus on what you're feeling but half the time I don't know. I've also done plenty of CBT which doesn't work. 

yea sure what do u need to cope with most ?  and in what situation ?   and what did u try to fix it  so i dont repeat recommends  we have all the time in the world there is no rush here -

Could you explain a bit more?

to cope with ?  pick one thing 

Thanks for the info. I will definitely look into that. Also is there any info your recommend for coping mechanisms. I tried a lot but they never help. 

one place i would recommend is public sector jobs eg civil service ,,, social security jobs they are just more flexible and have better neurodiversity policies

I am currently living with my parents in a village. I have considered dog grooming but I don't like the thought of styling a dog. I'm more of a get scissors and cut hair off rather than styling it. And yeah I haven't got diagnosed yet (in the process) but I would be surprised if they said I didn't have it. 

whats your living situation ?

r u out on your own 

OR 

at home with parents/siblings

are u in a town/city or more rural ?

you dont have to tell me  if u dont want to 

have u considered dog grooming ? 

me losing jobs was my reason to seek help and then i got a shock ..... autism !

Yeah circumstances don't help at the moment. And I'm not sure. At the moment, something to bring some money but something I can cope with as I have had to quit previous jobs as it was severely affecting my health.

And oops. Yeah they are very sensitive. And no I tried to visit them and I kept having panic attacks just walking in the door.  At the moment I'm studying dog behaviour online. 

sorry to hear u lost your dog i just lost my wee shitz tsu  ( about a month now ) he basically he made my laugh he was such a diva ,,,me,me ,me me  

i am looking for a new dog from the rescue dogs organisations but i might wait a while to get over  "Bacon" my Shitz tsu  he genuinely  would pull me out of a  low mood days because he could was so silly and demanding. I think I will always miss him.

what sort of work are u looking for ?

its a terrible time to be looking for work ie Xmas + brexit + covid  but the new year will be good i reckon 

my common lizards lost their tails and grew back dull replacements.   One incident was my fault when i lifted my lizard by the tail, then boom my mind froze and i was focusing on a "wriggling worm" ,,,,,,,,,,,, then i realised it was my lizards tail ! He had gone while I froze.

SO the tail mechanism for escape works really well :)

have u thought of going to study zoology( animals )  at uni ?

And the years seems to always be hard. Health doesn't help. My dog also died the week before Xmas. I've also been trying to find a job to no avail. Trying to find one I can cope with is also hard. 

I love lizards. They're just so interesting. And he's never lost his tail. Bearded dragons don't tend to do it like other lizards as they can't grow back. He loves coming out for cuddles as he's super affectionate. 

I love lizards. They're just so interesting. And he's never lost his tail. Bearded dragons don't tend to do it like other lizards as they can't grow back. He loves coming out for cuddles as he's super affectionate.