newly diagnosed 20 years too late- and I'm confused.

I didn't find out until I was in my 50s. I've always been interested in sociology, psychology, the ways we learn etc. so it was natural for me to watch a tv programme about Autism a few years ago - and instead of just focussing on the usual stereotypes, they included an Autistic woman who gives presentations and training in Autism and I really identified with her. This led to me researching on the internet, doing the AQ50 test and being shocked at the result. But being female and born when I was it would have been near impossible to get a diagnosis as a child.

I didn't show classic Autism behaviours as a child, however I was highly sensitive, curious, and sometimes quite detached, often daydreaming and living in a bit of a fantasy world. At school I was quiet, well behaved and top of the class in reading and spelling, so the teachers just thought I was a model pupil, however I was quiet as I was scared of some of the other kids and was bullied for a while as a teenager. I would escape reality by reading books as much as possible. I had few friends and felt a bit of a misfit.

Despite being bright I struggled with learning what I needed to pass exams in a school classroom environment. I have taken online and distance learning courses as an adult and did much better with these, gaining the equivalent of 2 A Levels in accounting with AAT and a diploma in social sciences from the Open University. I have had numerous jobs, never staying in one for more than 5 years, although I have no plans to leave my current job which I will have worked at for 5 years in May.This may be because I now understand myself better and it has helped me adapt, or because I feel settled and accepted - I suspect it's a bit of both.

I am open with my colleagues about my autism but I refuse to see my autism as a disability or disorder. For some people, I know that their autism does disable or disadvantage them, but I am lucky in that I have no learning difficulties and have traits which give me an advantage in some fields. During my 30s I trained on the job as a special needs teaching assistant and spent five years working with children with learning difficulties - my mentor said I was very sensitive to their needs. I have also spent a lot of my working life in accounting roles, which I excel at due to my highly systemising brain (and I particularly excel at Excel - ha ha!)

The thing that has helped me cope and understand has been learning about Autistic and NT behaviours and how they differ, which helps me understand myself and others and enables better communication. Reading the experiences of others on this forum really helped me feel less "different" and reading a book called " A field guide to Earthlings" by Ian Ford (a guide to neurotypical behaviour from an Autistic viewpoint) was extremely helpful.

I didn't find out until I was in my 50s. I've always been interested in sociology, psychology, the ways we learn etc. so it was natural for me to watch a tv programme about Autism a few years ago - and instead of just focussing on the usual stereotypes, they included an Autistic woman who gives presentations and training in Autism and I really identified with her. This led to me researching on the internet, doing the AQ50 test and being shocked at the result. But being female and born when I was it would have been near impossible to get a diagnosis as a child.

I didn't show classic Autism behaviours as a child, however I was highly sensitive, curious, and sometimes quite detached, often daydreaming and living in a bit of a fantasy world. At school I was quiet, well behaved and top of the class in reading and spelling, so the teachers just thought I was a model pupil, however I was quiet as I was scared of some of the other kids and was bullied for a while as a teenager. I would escape reality by reading books as much as possible. I had few friends and felt a bit of a misfit.

Despite being bright I struggled with learning what I needed to pass exams in a school classroom environment. I have taken online and distance learning courses as an adult and did much better with these, gaining the equivalent of 2 A Levels in accounting with AAT and a diploma in social sciences from the Open University. I have had numerous jobs, never staying in one for more than 5 years, although I have no plans to leave my current job which I will have worked at for 5 years in May.This may be because I now understand myself better and it has helped me adapt, or because I feel settled and accepted - I suspect it's a bit of both.

I am open with my colleagues about my autism but I refuse to see my autism as a disability or disorder. For some people, I know that their autism does disable or disadvantage them, but I am lucky in that I have no learning difficulties and have traits which give me an advantage in some fields. During my 30s I trained on the job as a special needs teaching assistant and spent five years working with children with learning difficulties - my mentor said I was very sensitive to their needs. I have also spent a lot of my working life in accounting roles, which I excel at due to my highly systemising brain (and I particularly excel at Excel - ha ha!)

The thing that has helped me cope and understand has been learning about Autistic and NT behaviours and how they differ, which helps me understand myself and others and enables better communication. Reading the experiences of others on this forum really helped me feel less "different" and reading a book called " A field guide to Earthlings" by Ian Ford (a guide to neurotypical behaviour from an Autistic viewpoint) was extremely helpful.