Newly diagnosed with ASD Aspergers profile this morning

Hi there, I'm female, late 50s, diagnosed nearly 4 weeks ago with ASD so fairly fresh. Used to teach interpersonal communication skills years ago (oh, the irony!). 

I'm reading Living Well on the Spectrum by Valerie Gaus at the moment. It's an excellent account of how things work differently if you are ASD and she suggests ways you can change your environment, adapt and accept. Best of all this workbook uses a strengths model identifying ways in which ASD can actually enhance life. 

Hi Sunflower, How're you feeling about your diagnosis? Have you found that your background of teaching interpersonal skills has helped you with your Aspergers? May have helped mask it too I guess?

Sounds like you found a good book, I might have a look at it a some point. In what ways do you feel that it's helped you?  I'm focusing on the social skills training books and online coaching at the moment as it makes me feel more validated as a person. 

Hi there it was definitely through skills and knowledge developed in specific types of employment that I managed to stay under the radar for so long. My career peaked in my early 50s - then my husband got very ill, I was under a lot of stress and everything started to unravel. I might have had a more conventionally 'successful' career had I been able to get the help and support I needed earlier. I had a tendency to flit from one job to another because things got too difficult to manage.

Masking for such a long time has caused lots of mental health and relationship problems. It is tempting to try and live like someone neurotypical in order to fit in, and it probably had advantages for me in career terms, but it came at a huge cost. I was able to manage my own mental health problems for many years but ultimately the strain got too great. Just before my ASD assessment my elderly dog died and I coasted into the side of the road and could not get going again! 

I am glad to have been diagnosed and I am living a more authentic autistic lifestyle now. The workbook I mentioned is helping me understand the mechanics of how the autistic brain works - thoughts, feelings, communication and behaviours. It is very helpful on environmental and sensory issues too, and encourages acceptance of what cannot be changed. Best of all, like I said before, the author highlights strengths associated with ASD, so it is an optimistic read. 

Your online coaching sounds really interesting. Is that something autism specific? 

Hi thanks for this information. 

My husband has a rare incurable condition so it's a case of living wih it and having the best quality of life possible. I researched his symptoms myself and was way ahead of the consultant in working out what was wrong. My autistic hyperfocus comes in useful sometimes! I also researched Dupuytrens Disease, which I have had for a couple of years, and managed to get radiotherapy just before NHS funding was cut. Needless to say autism has become a bit of a special interest of mine now...

My career profile wasn't that unusual for people in academia and project management. I had some real successes because I was relatively impervious to people around me saying certain things couldn't be done!  I am having to rethink my strategy for getting by now. Too much masking and acting as if I was neurotypical for so many years wore me out! I am enjoying being myself with people who accept that autistic people have a different style of communication. 

I had a look at Daniel Wendler's work and I can see its appeal and usefulness for some people. My problems seem to have developed from prolonged attempts to pass as neurotypical. The strain of effortful communication combined with difficult life events eventually became too much. Perhaps that is why I am taking a different path now by embracing my autistic characteristics rather than modifying them. 

I've always been part of the disability rights movement, so that probably influences my perspective on being diagnosed autistic. It feels a bit strange to be letting go of behaviours I have been hiding behind for so long, but that is all part of dropping the mask. What I love about our community is the fact that we are all similar and yet different, finding our own unique ways of living satisfying lives as autistic people. 

Hi thanks for this information. 

My husband has a rare incurable condition so it's a case of living wih it and having the best quality of life possible. I researched his symptoms myself and was way ahead of the consultant in working out what was wrong. My autistic hyperfocus comes in useful sometimes! I also researched Dupuytrens Disease, which I have had for a couple of years, and managed to get radiotherapy just before NHS funding was cut. Needless to say autism has become a bit of a special interest of mine now...

My career profile wasn't that unusual for people in academia and project management. I had some real successes because I was relatively impervious to people around me saying certain things couldn't be done!  I am having to rethink my strategy for getting by now. Too much masking and acting as if I was neurotypical for so many years wore me out! I am enjoying being myself with people who accept that autistic people have a different style of communication. 

I had a look at Daniel Wendler's work and I can see its appeal and usefulness for some people. My problems seem to have developed from prolonged attempts to pass as neurotypical. The strain of effortful communication combined with difficult life events eventually became too much. Perhaps that is why I am taking a different path now by embracing my autistic characteristics rather than modifying them. 

I've always been part of the disability rights movement, so that probably influences my perspective on being diagnosed autistic. It feels a bit strange to be letting go of behaviours I have been hiding behind for so long, but that is all part of dropping the mask. What I love about our community is the fact that we are all similar and yet different, finding our own unique ways of living satisfying lives as autistic people.