Published on 12, July, 2020
Dunno where to start! I just feel like a mum who’s failing her son, because I can’t get anyone to take us seriously. I’ve been telling health visitors, nursery nurses, doctors and teachers that my son was different since he was two, and no one has listened, I’ve been brushed off at every turn! And now he’s nearly 10 and falling behind at school.
I eventually got my gp to refer him to paediatrics , but School let me down by getting someone to fill the getting to know me form in , that had never even met my son let alone coped with him in a classroom setting. So despite me crying down the phone, paediatrics denied us an appointment. A year later and it’s bought to my attention that his class teacher is giving him balls of blue tac to stop his hands fidgeting while he works!! So now they do a proper 5 min assessment on him and fill in the getting to know me form again. Fingers crossed we get an appt at least this time.
Hes very friendly , almost too friendly, thinks nothing of hugging people, always smiling, but left alone he will destroy books, paper etc , rip wall paper and when asked about it , he “doesn’t know why,” he needs to know where I am, can walk past living room door, but always has to say hi, like he’s been out the house. He talks to anyone who will listen, often divulging stuff he really shouldn’t and if I’m honest I think if someone in a car offered him sweets he’d get in, he doesn’t understand stranger danger, thinks everyone is good. Please help me! I’m sure there is something on the spectrum that my son is suffering from ... which means there will be a course on ways to handle it better. I feel I’m letting him down all the time.
forgot to say he’s nearly 10
Loz9673 said:Hes very friendly , almost too friendly, thinks nothing of hugging people, always smiling, but left alone he will destroy books, paper etc , rip wall paper and when asked about it , he “doesn’t know why,”
Often emotion is a slippery eel. It sounds like a build up of frustration, angst and anxiety. It can be difficult to identify the emotions I feel and even more so to verbally express a build up (so a cascade sometimes rather than one specific event) that can cause such a meltdown.
At the age of 43, I internalise, take life on the chin and then in my own quiet way release by crying, listening to music, engaging with nature as a release. I guess that kind of means that I’ve learnt strategies. But each moment in life creates a residue of angst.
can totally identify with @Song response.