Women with aspergers syndrome

Hi rr84. I don’t know if it’s any help, but I feel the same. The past just won’t stay in the past. I obsess over mistakes etc. I cannot change anything. I want to get past thinking like this. Maybe try CBT. There must be a way of getting passed the past. 

Hi yes it does to now i am not the only one like it and i just hate myself for things i have done and i cant change them so i dont know why obesses over them just regret it and thank u

Maybe try to distract your thoughts to break the obsessive cycle? I find cleaning helps me! At night it’s not so easy. I have to get up and make a drink. I don’t know how to stop beating myself up over stuff that nobody else probably remembers. It does help me too to meet someone else here who feels the same. 

Ok take care good night sleep well

Maybe tomorrow or another time. Going to try to sleep now. Sweet dreams! 

U are ok and yes u been very helpful would  u like to talk again

It wasn’t you annoyed me. It was the irrelevant asking for research. Someone else. Glad to hear you are feeling better. We have to live and learn I’m afraid. I hope I haven’t annoyed you. I’m not very good at this. I’m going to bed soon. I hope I have been supportive. It’s helped me too. Thanks. 

Thanks i have learnt from it and wont ever do it again but just wish i could forget it i cant change it i know that and it wasnt illegeal just full of regret and thanks for the help and sorry if annoyed u or anything 

Also, not all relationships work out. Nobody’s fault. Not yours. Life is painful at times but beautiful at others. 

Can you talk to your friends before doing anything with a man? Are you able to set yourself limits beforehand? Maybe write a checklist even? Decide also what is acceptable generally and what is abuse or grooming. Maybe discuss with others, so you have clearer boundaries. The good men out there would not push you out of your comfort zone, but you have to know where your comfort zone is, I’m afraid. And you do have to let him know clearly too. If this wasn’t anything illegal, try to put it down to experience. You’ll be ok. It’s good to write. 

• I think i do i wonder where all the decent men are and even talking to u has made me feel better and i always make mistakes and im left hurt etc and i beat myself up to when men do whatever and they dont care and i always seem to make bad decisions and i write about my feelings or cbt or self help notes or i write down my mistakes and try and find the positive advice from my friends 

• I think i do i wonder where all the decent men are and even talking to u has made me feel better and i always make mistakes and im left hurt etc and i beat myself up to when men do whatever and they dont care and i always seem to make bad decisions and i write about my feelings or cbt or self help notes or i write down my mistakes and try and find the positive advice from my friends 

Ok take care good night sleep well

Maybe tomorrow or another time. Going to try to sleep now. Sweet dreams! 

U are ok and yes u been very helpful would  u like to talk again

It wasn’t you annoyed me. It was the irrelevant asking for research. Someone else. Glad to hear you are feeling better. We have to live and learn I’m afraid. I hope I haven’t annoyed you. I’m not very good at this. I’m going to bed soon. I hope I have been supportive. It’s helped me too. Thanks. 

Thanks i have learnt from it and wont ever do it again but just wish i could forget it i cant change it i know that and it wasnt illegeal just full of regret and thanks for the help and sorry if annoyed u or anything 

Also, not all relationships work out. Nobody’s fault. Not yours. Life is painful at times but beautiful at others. 

Can you talk to your friends before doing anything with a man? Are you able to set yourself limits beforehand? Maybe write a checklist even? Decide also what is acceptable generally and what is abuse or grooming. Maybe discuss with others, so you have clearer boundaries. The good men out there would not push you out of your comfort zone, but you have to know where your comfort zone is, I’m afraid. And you do have to let him know clearly too. If this wasn’t anything illegal, try to put it down to experience. You’ll be ok. It’s good to write.